Is it wrong to plan months ahead to save money to buy a birthday gift for a friend/guy when your broke currently. And you only knew him for 5 months?

When I was hanging out with a guy I met online through MATCH.COM. I thought things were bad enough that this guy has a lot of issues. But who doesn't! I'm working on mine too!

"I was told by that same guy off match.com that his friends said to him that it was weird to plan a gift months before someone's birthday".

That guy did a lot of things wrong in front of me. And even though we barely knew each other. We were arguing over stupid crap! We were never in a real relationship. He asked me to be his (((FWB)))- friend with benefits. That turned bad cause I wasn't able to be myself around him.

And it hurt my feelings when he would take his anger out on me . So I did the only thing I could I turned his anger back on him and used that as a reason to never talk to him again. I haven't talked with him since.

I feel very nervous when I find out a guy likes me cause I don't want to feel hurt anymore. And I don't know how to respond to it anymore. So I just ignore all guys that I can't mentally or physically tell if they want to be friends or just want a booty call.

I was just trying to be nice! I can't help being a giving person!
But abusive issues/actions/verbal words. That can make someone shy/scared/not ready for another relationship. I keep trying to look for someone. And I keep getting hurt by finding out that these guys that pose as ( Nice guys )- really are A**hole's in disguise.

For me that is why I'm shy and scared. As well as tired of the human emotions that involve relationships. So I'm just here for friends when I chat online.

Hope you make lots of friends!!!


Welcome


Tammy

thanks For the warm welcome! i needed that!

Welcome to the site....Have fun and be safe!

As for your question, be who you are! If you are a giver, be a giver, that is who you are.....As for planning months ahead and being broke......Find a balance!

You still have to survive, you have not known him that long, and some of the best gifts are the ones that say, " I thought of you." Example: a key chain, a lunch certificate to their favorite fast food, a rental card for a movie at blockbusters/whatever....getting it?

It is not what you spend, but that you cared enough to be yourself and give a gift! Best to you!!!!

I thought I ate all the nice guys...

Thank you for the comment. I had to step back for very good reasons with him. We argued again! And i just sent him a happy 32nd Birthday by text. And he said thank you back! I haven't talk to him since so I'm doing alright now.