Topic: If You Don't Trust Someone
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Thu 08/20/09 10:30 AM

I've had to do so much head scratching when it comes to women in my life that I think it's part of the reason I don't have any hair left...lol
laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 08/20/09 12:29 PM

:heart: If you don't trust someone,do you leave them and find someone else,or work on your own trust issues?:heart:


I'm with Smile on this...

Trust is built with another over time...experiences and memories that strengthen your relationship and build a sense of belief in each other. When the trust is fractured, then you have to decide whether that relationship is worth rebuilding based on those prior experiences and not necessarily one isolated incident.

TRUST is not a "given" but earned, over time.
On the Other hand... I Will trust you, until I'm given a reason to feel otherwise. I hope that you will allow me the same courtesy.

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Thu 08/20/09 12:42 PM
trust is given
not something to be thrown away
and if I feel
betrayed
can forgive
but something will have been lost in the process

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Thu 08/20/09 02:07 PM

:heart: If you don't trust someone,do you leave them and find someone else,or work on your own trust issues?:heart:


That is a loaded question. First, have they done something to make them untrustworthy? If not then it is probably you, which means you need to work on your self confidence and self esteem. If they have done something like lie, cheat or steal, kick them to the street if they cheated and give them a chance to prove themselves trustworthy if they lied or stole.

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Thu 08/20/09 02:16 PM


If you don't trust someone there's a reason for the distrust


Wow.

So lemme see here...

Basically, every woman who doesn't trust a guy has a reason??

I beg to differ. There are some VERY insecure, possessive women out there. Their own insecurities cause them to always think a dude is cheating on them. Even if the guy has done nothing to indicate he has or ever would.

As you see i just said there's a reason for the distrust...i didn't say what! Which means you could be the reason for it or your partner could be!!

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Thu 08/20/09 08:40 PM

:heart: If you don't trust someone,do you leave them and find someone else,or work on your own trust issues?:heart:



When you are given reason not to trust someone, you should listen to your gut, ALWAYS!

andreajayne's photo
Thu 08/20/09 08:47 PM
If I don't trust someone, its because they have done something for me to lose their trust. When that happens, it is time to walk away.

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Thu 08/20/09 08:49 PM

flowerforyou Kick that B!tch to the curbflowerforyou


Exactly. drinker

hereformore's photo
Thu 08/20/09 08:55 PM
Depends on whether the issue of trust is mine due to baggage or if they did something to cause me not to trust.
If it's mine I would work on it and hope they will wait, if they brought it on then I'm outtie.

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Thu 08/20/09 08:56 PM
i start out to trusting, i am a sucker.. but once they have done something to make me lose trust in them then there is nothing left.. i have given second chances but there are some things that can not be forgiven

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Thu 08/20/09 09:08 PM
Well this is a GREAT QUESTION!!! the person whit whom I just seperated,and at this moment miss dearly in one breath & in the next I'm just as angry..Well we have/had major TRUST issuses,not even taliking at this point.
But I do Honestly believe that TRUST can be rebuilt,reaffirmed,and re-established,and regained..But only if both of the people involved are willing to come completely clean..and take the time needed its going to take,It won't be easy,And feelings are going to be hurt probably more then they already are..but Just answer any & all questions they have..and if your hiding anything else they need to know or may find out about mind as well start off with a clear conscience..Clean Slate..and in turn be ready to answer (?'S) your self..even though you may not have been the 1 in the wrong per say..just keep it on leval ground.If your wanting to work it out..

And Just start from there..Talk..And be willing to FORGIVE..you have to start somewhere

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Thu 08/20/09 09:11 PM

Well this is a GREAT QUESTION!!! the person whit whom I just seperated,and at this moment miss dearly in one breath & in the next I'm just as angry..Well we have/had major TRUST issuses,not even taliking at this point.
But I do Honestly believe that TRUST can be rebuilt,reaffirmed,and re-established,and regained..But only if both of the people involved are willing to come completely clean..and take the time needed its going to take,It won't be easy,And feelings are going to be hurt probably more then they already are..but Just answer any & all questions they have..and if your hiding anything else they need to know or may find out about mind as well start off with a clear conscience..Clean Slate..and in turn be ready to answer (?'S) your self..even though you may not have been the 1 in the wrong per say..just keep it on leval ground.If your wanting to work it out..

And Just start from there..Talk..And be willing to FORGIVE..you have to start somewhere
tried that did'nt work for me !No trust no relationship ,period !

MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 08/21/09 02:19 PM

If I don't trust someone, its because they have done something for me to lose their trust. When that happens, it is time to walk away.
flowerforyou

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Fri 08/21/09 03:17 PM

:heart: If you don't trust someone,do you leave them and find someone else,or work on your own trust issues?:heart:


Ummmmm... sorry, I only trust draconians... and no one else...laugh

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Fri 08/21/09 10:41 PM


:heart: If you don't trust someone,do you leave them and find someone else,or work on your own trust issues?:heart:


Ummmmm... sorry, I only trust draconians... and no one else...laugh
scared

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Sat 08/22/09 08:15 PM
:banana: :banana: WHOOT WHOOT:banana: :banana:

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Sun 08/23/09 10:52 PM

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Sun 08/23/09 10:53 PM



If you don't trust someone there's a reason for the distrust


Wow.

So lemme see here...

Basically, every woman who doesn't trust a guy has a reason??

I beg to differ. There are some VERY insecure, possessive women out there. Their own insecurities cause them to always think a dude is cheating on them. Even if the guy has done nothing to indicate he has or ever would.

As you see i just said there's a reason for the distrust...i didn't say what! Which means you could be the reason for it or your partner could be!!


Meh. Pretty good dodge.

Jess642's photo
Sun 08/23/09 10:59 PM
How did I end up in a relationship with someone I don't trust???? Was I drunk???huh surprised

JustAGuy2112's photo
Sun 08/23/09 11:00 PM

How did I end up in a relationship with someone I don't trust???? Was I drunk???huh surprised


I think it's more of a case of losing the trust, Jess.