He always has an excuse as to why he can't take care of his baby son. Tonight he said "Oh, I will take him at 12" but then gets drunk and says "Oh, I'm too drunk." he does this all the time,and he doesn't even take care of our son 25% of the time.
The one time I went out for the night I didn't hear the end of it from him, I STILL haven't heard the end of it. But he thinks its ok to forget about his responsibilities on a daily basis?

I don't know what to do. No matter what I say, no matter what his mom, step dad, brothers or sisters say, he doesn't do anything.

If he's an alcoholic, he won't listen to any of those people.

Do you think he could be one?

This is not a good situation, is he paying child support?? It does sound that he is very immature. There is only so much you can do. If he is not fallowing the parentig plan you could talk to your lawyer maybe he/or she can tell you what can be done legally. Other than that there is not much you can do unless he delibrately breaks the parenting plan. Good luck Lymore

Did you pick him to get preggo by?

Wow, you are very young to have a baby and I know how difficult this must be for you right now. Having a newborn is difficult under the best of circumstances.

It sounds like you are going to need to get a custody and support order from a court since you guys are not married and not together. I can't stress enough how important this will be to you in the long run. I know it's probably overwhelming to think about right now, but you shouldn't wait.

I hope this helped. Congratulations on your new baby.

If he is drinking heavily, I wouldn't trust him to watch the baby. My ex was an alcoholic and I never left the baby with him even when we were married. Didn't trust him at all. The baby's safety comes first. Sounds like he is really immature.

I think you need to hire a babysitter if you need a break rather than rely on him if he is going to be drunk when he has the baby. So many babies are hurt in cases like this. Just my thoughts.

his mom thinks he may be an alcoholic. he is also bipolar

we both live at his moms house, so he doesnt pay child support or anything, no lawyer or anything like that

hell no, i was supposed to go to college, it was totally unplanned.

I've known bi-polar people to self-medicate with drinking.

I wouldn't be able to trust him with the baby if he drinks a lot. He could be drinking and driving with the baby in the car.

Well I am not sure of you situation but living with his mother..hhhmmm is his bipolar issues affected or hurting the child in anyway?? If the situation is getting way out of hand you may have to think about looking for public assistance and leave...and ect..

lol, he has no car and no license, so no worry there

cut the strings as much as you can

make him a part of your history not your present

Exactly.

And, lots of people with no license and/or no car still drive drunk and hurt and kill people every day. I wouldn't leave the baby alone with him, my thoughts anyways.

oh, hes never alone with the baby, we live with his mom, step dad, and 4 of his brothers and sisters, hes always supervised.

What about him getting help to help him see what he is doing?? any luck??

Ge the state to help you get child support, get out of the living arrangement,
and hang on for the ride through the wonderful world of single motherhood... just take care of your son.

The best thing you can do for yourself an your son is to get out of the livin situation. Get your own place or move in with your own family if possible. I tried for years to get my son's father to take some kind of responsibility for him. I can tell you from experience, you can't make a man be a Daddy. There are plenty of programs out there that can help you get on your own, help you get an education an move forward. You've got to think about the bigger picture. Your son deserves at least one stable parent an it looks like you're gonna have to be it. Go to court establish custody, establish child support an go about the job of raising your son. You do not need a lawyer to go to court. Go to the local child support agency an request help. I wish you the best of luck.