Quit being a child, grow up, get legal help, move out to a place where YOU can have control. I FULLY realize, this is all going to be very difficult for you. Might even think about adoption, as best move for you & child. Just get away from his parents, they could start legal action to take baby away from you. Try to find some family or friends that will help yo get on your feet.

Just whatever you do, you need to get legal help.

Best of luck & God Bless.

Sage.


You are the best!!!!!!!


Love to you

But, the only place I would have to go is Florida, and its so far away from most of Tyler's father's family, and they adore him. I would feel bad.

Oh hon.... it's not about you. It's what's best for your child. Listen to Sage. He's spot on.

As a single parent myself, I will say to you that the first thing you need to do is take care of YOU. That means living somewhere stable and go to college and/or tech school. Get a job, and take care of your child. Make decisions for the now AND for the future. If your BF isn't willing to get a job, to care for his child, then why stay with his family hoping things will change? There is no reason why they can't stay in your child's life.

I can truly relate to where ur comin from. I moved from MI to MS to get my son away from his no good father an to stand on my own 2 feet. U've got to decide what is best for your son an yourself. Whether u like it or not, from the way you're talkin ur gonna be the only parent he has. Just because u move far away that doesn't mean the grandparents can't be in his life. There's mail, the internet an there's always visits. U've got to think about the bigger picture. Is it better to have your son raised by one parent that has it together an lookin out for him or one that allows the other alcoholic parent to screw up his life? If his grandparents truly love him they will understand that you're doin the best thing for your son an will support your decision to leave.

My ex's parents take care of me well, and help with baby Tyler too. It would actually be easier for me to go to college if I stay with his parents because his mom would watch the baby for me while I go to school, if I moved to FL with my mom I wouldn't have that luxury, my mom works full time.
But then again it would be less stressful to move away from my ex. There are pros and cons to both situations, and I have to figure out which one has a better balance.

Many colleges have on campus day care. There are many programs that would help pay for said day care also. I would do some research online an find out what kind of programs are available to you in that area of FL.

Well if he's not doing what he should on his own, and i don't know if he stays with you or not, you can not change someone if they don't want to. But there's always a saying mama's baby daddy's maybe. not saying it's not he's but saying that the mother of the child always the main care taker a mother will not leave their child. TAKE HIM TO CHILD SUPPORT and hopfully he change when somebody else is telling him what he needs to do (if that helps). go to school, start working (if your not) and be the back bone your son needs.

Definitely listen to everyone here...move out of his house, go with family or get welfare, foodstamps, daycare, a job and your own place. Most likely you'll be raising the baby on your own. And definitely seek custody - if he is a drinking and bi-polar He won't get any type of custody, however, his parents might seek rights to their grandson. Best to get that done now before years down the road he actually decides to be apart and take your son. Believe me when I say, people are capable of kidnapping.