if a man treats his friends (both female and male) terribly, while treating his girlfriend with utmost respect... should said girlfriend take this as a sign that he may one day change and treat her as he does his friends?

by "terribly" i mean like ignoring/not returning calls and being completely indifferent to them.

I'd see that as a definate red flag.

Jas, I wouldn't be able to stay with someone that doesn't treat their friends with respect and love regardless of how he treated me.

maybe he can only love one person..doesn't have enough to share, maybe she is his entire world, which would be strange. I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't nice to others.

yes. somewhere i've read that you should watch how a man interacts with his mother as that is how he will one day treat his partner.

I think that would depend on the mother in question...

sometimes but not always...

there was this guy i dated for 3yrs(he died almost 3yrs ago) he would critizie my spelling and he was verble abusive, everyone saw this and took me awhile. the reason he was verbale abusive was because his stepdad was as well of his mom.
we got into a argument one day for he felt my attitude was bad and he felt i needed to see a counselor, so i went to please him, and the counselor pointed out it was not me with the problem it was him, and my mom even said if i had went back to him, my actions would had went back to what it was.. i had broken up with him 4times and the 4th he came over after a month trying to get backtogether which i knew it wasent going to work, he ask me if i had met anyone, which i hadnet at the time any how. .i did meet someone a few months later, but thats another story... he had a good heart, he just didnt see the problem of his actions of being verable abusive

A potential jack*** right there

...so what you're saying is that your in love with a jerk...

Red flags for me: How people treat their friends, animals, and children. Also, how do they treat the waiter, waitress, cashier.

Sounds like he is making his life revolve around his girlfriend. But yes it could be possible that he may change and treat her like that. And I would definitely consider that a red flag.

Definite bad sign right there.

For the most part, not really. I'd have a hard time being with a guy who didn't/wouldn't respect his mother.

I am wondering why these said friends would bother with him....


most people can't be bothered with idiots.

I would also ask the friends has he always been this way...or has his treatment of them changed, and when?

If it was since he met me....I would wonder...

A leopard can't change his spots ...
But he can wait silently for prey.

Trust me on this one. If you don't listen to one other thing I say here on Mingle you must listen to me on this...run, Forrest, run! Pretty soon he will expect you to let go of your friends. It's sort of a control thing going on. Do you want a life of, "Somebody's at the door! Get rid of 'em!" I know what I'm talking about here. Red flag.

He hasn't treated you like that because he doesn't feel he has you under his complete control yet. Don't worry, you'll get your chance to be abused....he's looking forward to it