The bernie mac show had this as their plot..... I'm just curious what other people think

my little sis was on birth control before she turned 13

my mom was taking no chances

what's wrong with condoning sex?

what i do see as wrong is condoning irresponsible and unsafe sex...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with condoning sex.

I told my son to have all the sex he can have when he turned 14. But, I told him to use condoms and that if he wasn't careful he could ruin his life before it even starts. I told him about how young women may try to take his used condoms, turn them inside out and get pregnant.

I told him all this because no one told me any of this at that age and I was sexually active. Hopefully he will avoid the pitfalls I didn't.

well my point is less about condoning sex in general and more about 13-16 boys and girls

Many of them are sexaully active. They should be educated about it.

the way i see it is you have two options...

you ignore that teens have urges and some will experiment with sex and never talk to them about being safe

or you accept that sex is a part of life post-puberty and mention how it should be gone about correctly, should they choose to engage. while encouraging them to wait...

i'd rather choose the latter.

i was taught about sex and contraception from 11... i lost my virginity at 19 (and not through lack of opportunity )

My kids wont even be dating till their married. :)
I am definatly the daddy with the shotgun...except instead of the shotgun, i'll stick to a rusty blade.

I have spoken and continue to speak to my 3 sons about this sort of thing..
I know a couple of them are having sex and they have not made me a grandmother..... that we know of.

"Talking to teens about contraception= Condoning Sex???"

No, not exactly. It's condoming sex.

My children have decided to leave all the procreating to their grandchildren. Saves a lot on pediatric peridental expenses, that they can spend (and have indeed) on snorkeling holidays on Fiji.

i have a 14 year old niece,i don't even wanna hear or think about this!

My method of 'the talk'.

Talked to my children about it. Honestly.

Told my daughter about why it was not safe... Told her how to say no...

Made sure she WAS safe.

Gave her one rule... I have to meet the boy.

Then showed that boy my swords and explained how much it would hurt if I cut his nuts off.

I talked to my kids about their bodies and their choices from as soon as they recognized they had body parts.

I told them that sex could either me loving and wonderful and meaningful or it could be not a lot more than a body function, cause a lot of unwanted comlications, and basiclly make them second to another human being for the rest of their life.

I told them all the facts, all the options, and how poorly they could work even when used the right way. Wasn't unusual for them to bring their friends to me for answers. There were "kids" in their schools who were pregnant in the early teens so I felt it was something they needed to know not to be caught "ignorant" even if it was just a conversation on the subject. I guarantee you that kids talk about sex. And will talk to you about it if you don't treat them like they are too stupid to have a serious discussion about it.

What knocked me out was the number of parents who were more than glad to pass the buck. And even with all the information that is out there the ignorance that still exists.

I really don't think having the information ever made my "kids" think that I condoned sexual activity until they were in their twenties and in a committed relationship. I made it clear that it was normal to want to but it was irresponsible to do it just because they could.

I also made it rare that they would be put into the position to be pressured into a sexual situation. I made sure activities were chaproned and that I would bring them home no questions asked. I didn't pressure them to have a girlfriend/boyfriend's and it was crystal clear that alcohol was not acceptable.

DITTO!!!!!!!!!
What she said,,,, Thank you for letting me use you to lay on for a bit,wink,,,lol OH,,THAT was bad,,,,,lol

The sex isn't the problem- it's the unplanned pregnancies and the potential for STDs that are the problem. So yeah- you'd simply HAVE to talk to the young'uns about contraception, and before it's too late at that.

Just wishing the subject would go away by promoting abstinence over contraception has been proven to be a pipe dream at best as the kids will go out and bump uglies anyway. Even worse is the fact that they won't be informed about the consequences of unprotected sex, which can outweigh the supposed moral niceties that comes with preaching abstinence.

I'd rather arm my kids with useful information (and not holier-than-thou nonsense) when it comes to sex, as I'd be fooling myself otherwise.

Heck- from what I understand, Ex-Prez George W. Bush is considered a hero in Africa, as he evidently managed to do what no other president has managed to- enact contraception policies that have not only lowered the out-of-control birth rates there, but have ALSO resulted in a record decline in new HIV cases as well.

Of course, it makes you wonder why he didn't think to adopt the same policies here in the U.S., too.

Nice concern..!!!!!!!
Eileen..
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I respected my children's mother's approach to sex.
And have let her do 'the Talk'

I have instructed them that I prefer Bill and Hillary Clinton's method with Chelsey.

"Don't Do It until you are 21, and we don't want to hear about it"