I constantly feel this way that i'm ignored. My friends always go out and seem to attract women. I try my hardest and go in with the right mind set but it seems like I can't even get anyone to look in my direction. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has felt this way....

maybe because you whine that no one wants you? just a thought...

Win!

No, I don't whine (besides this post). I am pretty positive but have no luck. My friends are naturals, don't know how they do it. They draw women without even trying most of the time. I have female friends too but can't seem to get past the friendship stage.

I dont go out in the 'dating scene'.

Strange thing though...

Seem to be actually working in reverse. I'm attracting more women and having a great time.

Some of them have become friends...

Some of them I am still gettin to know.

very interesting. If you don't go out how are you managing to pull this off?

Confidence?

Know exactly how you feel. No suggestions on how to remedy the situation though.

Step up. Step out. MAKE them notice you. Even if you are just doing something goofy.

Works for me when I choose to do it.

The last time I decided that I didn't want to be ignored or left alone, I was at a chat party with a few friends from another site.

I got kinda bored, so I decided to make my own entertainment. I went around and started collecting name tags. Pinned them to my shirt and walked around looking really confused.

Everyone laughed, which worked for me.

Wound up with my last g/f because of that night.

It didn't work out very well....but it was a blast.

I can relate. Do the people that say that others whine actually have the same experience? If not, there's no place for them to talk.

epic win!

well i direct porn and i dance on a pole people seem to like that and ask me out

DOn't worry, people, she's just doing what she does best, speaking in sarcasm

It is a confidence thing. When you stop carrying all the pressure of "I have to MEET someone" or "I NEVER have any luck" or "There is some mystical quality that everyone has BUT ME"; then you can relax and develop some confidence.

If you like the way a girl looks, look her in the eye for Christsake and smile. Be genuine and sincere; and DON'T MAKE IT INTO SOMETHING IT ISN'T.

You aren't looking to be a player, so don't try to do what they do. Drop your expectations and accept whatever bounties are bestowed upon you. If it is only a 15 minute conversation... then that is what it is. If it is an invitation to spend more time together... then that is what it is.

lol shhh clay i wanted to see how many emails i could get!

I can understand where whining would be a turn off. I would not fault for someone for being turned off by someone who is negative and dumps their problems. I know that well enough and that isn't what the post is about. The post is about seeming to be invisible to your opposite sex. I'm happy to know others relate and that I'm not the only one.

yea, how are you managing to pull this off?

There's your problem, your trying your hardest and that may be your downfall. You shouldn't have to try your hardest to be who you are. When you try your hardest, you are being someone your not, and people can see right through that and think your just a cowardly person running from himself.. Stand up, become who you were meant to be and quit trying so hard..

Good Luck...

You are invisible, cause people can see right through you when your acting a role that is not who you are.

This is a good reply and reminds me of myself when I was younger. I used to have this problem specifically where I would panic about making the right impression. I made a lot of gains since then and am opposite now and have no problems approaching women and talking (job i had came in handy for this), I am pretty confident when it comes to that. And I like talking even if nothing comes out of it, just feel invisible in general. My friends constantly tell me about how all these women blatantly check them out and while I'm sure they probably exaggerate some of it, I'm sure they aren't totally lying and they are not really much better looking or confident than me. In my case I just don't see it even if I dress nice, put on cologne, blah blah blah. Of course maybe I'm just not perceptive enough but I think maybe lots of guys might have felt this way at one point or another