HERE FOR FRIENDS TOO.......

I'm here for the friendship but........ if love happens to find me I
would gladly open that door to see where it takes me. As for the geting
laid or no commitment shssssssssssh ya can go to the local bar and ge
that any night of the week. Don't go there would rather be by myself
before I would settle for that.

I am here looking for love I admit it

just not seeing the love part happening
I get a few messeges from women then they quit messeging me.

I am looking for friends and perhaps someone to spend

the rest of my life with. Weather that person is here or

somewhere else- I have'nt a clue... Only time will tell.

Goodluck to all of you with whatever you are looking for-

may you all find it.

T, to answer your questions:

I have never really been quite sure what I'm looking for here. It seems
like one day I'm thinking it would be nice to find someone who is
"girlfriend material," but the next day I'm not entirely sure I'm over
the "good one" I lost last year.

So I don't try to categorize it. I can't predict the future, I don't
know what I'll run into here. JSH has allowed me to meet a lot of good
people, and I'm sure there are many I haven't met yet, and many more who
have yet to join.

Getting laid for the sake of getting laid lost its appeal when I was 19.

Ditto for seeing someone on a regular basis without commitment.

I have never thought of myself as a "player" because that whole mindset
makes no sense to me. If it isn't overtly self-destructive -- or at
least self-defeating -- then I would argue that it is, at the very
least, nonproductive and ultimately unsatisfying, at least in the cases
I know about.

I would most likely never get married again -- that was a truly horrible
experience, and I can't think of any circumstance where I would ever do
that again. But I would be open to something long-term, something that
would have to involve commitment, if the right kind of situation arose.

And I know there are people who have attitudes about dating sites, per
se, and who feel that this is sort of the red-headed stepchild of
meeting/dating strategies, a last resort for the desperate or those who
are (to quote eHarmony) "unmatchable."

And, yes, to be honest, I have seen some of that on the dating sites.

These are the guys who send the obscene IMs, the lewd e-mails, to the
women on the site, as if they think this is somehow going to reel them
in! Vulgar AND stupid -- what a catch!

But I have met eight people (in person) from these sites. Seven were
train wrecks of the worst possible kind.

But the eighth one was the best girlfriend I ever had, and I would still
be with her today had it not been for some amazingly destructive
interference from family.

And I probably would even have married her, had it not been for the fact
that we both went into the realtionship with intense anti-marriage
attitudes.

But had she ever changed her mind and asked about it -- yeah, for her, I
would have.

So, to get back to the question: Everybody is looking for different
things, I guess. I'm not assuming anything -- I just figure maybe I
will meet someone here, maybe not; every person is different, everyone
is an individual. For all I know, my "perfect match" may sign up here
tomorrow. I wouldn't put money on it, but you never know.

i am here for the party

iam i came here to see if there were loacal guys that i could "meet"
that may be of interest.... well that didnt happen... of course it would
of been nice to find someone here that i clicked with.. and i did ..
just no one close... ya both have to click..... not just one person..
for if they played that it did click... that is a game.. why waste
anyones time? just like dating in person or some here call it going out
lol... seems to me that when you <meaning anybody> starts to feel
frustrated that this is when you do sort of feel like a peice of
meat...only after meeting though... and that is for on here or
anywhere......rather you sleep with them or not... sometimes rather u
date them or not ..that happened to me hadnt dated anyone as soon as i
became single.. my phone was ringing off the hook for dates... i got
tired of it and felt like a peice of meat too... so i took a break and
didnt date any of them... it can be really overwhlming at times....

everyone is here for different reasons.... and sometimes their reasons
change throughout their visit here... ive seen you here for different
reasons... at different times in your life...

I made this thread because of my feelings about single sites. I just
wanted to share and hear other members thoughts on what they came to the
site for. I am also always looking to meet new friends who are also as
myself looking for love.

Mr. Sage, you are once again a very intelligent man of principle and
reason. I applaud you sir.

To Joyce, I have met a very wonderful lifelong friend in you.


To everybody who has posted, I thank you very much and I hope to read
more. This place, JustSayHi has brought me many, many good friends.
Love you all.

we love you tooo im4u

Did someone say they get emails what are they,somebody must of knocked
down my mailbox,and changed the address. I guess I am here for friends
now,because once again not to many from P.A. here. But you all are
right if it happens great,and if not well,I am not dead yet,I'll just
keep on looking. Cheers
Somebody find my damn
mailbox

Honestly...I'm not looking for any of those...I guess if it happens it
happens

my grandmother always told me it was futile to look for love

she said " LOOK! look there, in the mirror. all you are looking for is
the chance to express the love that lives right there!"

how can you look for what you are?

BE that love, live that light and you will remember there is no need to
search

discrimination withers in the presence of love, and this illusive
'chemistry'?
becomes an amusing distraction


rather than waiting to be filled, offer a full cup and and serve a
multitude
this in all it's purity, empties the cup and refills it with gratitude,
and so......


let the beauty we love be what we do....'do' thank you.


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it's a good thing! no motive, no movie...just BE

I'm not looking FOR love, I'm looking TO love. And, idealistically, I'll
find someone who's looking TO love, too.

i'm looking forward to meeting new people then maybe i'll find love,
good answer??

A simple answer to a question of many answers.

I will say that a person, be it a man or a woman will sometimes settle
for the other in what they believe is true love. It is nice to have a
relationship, be it married or engaged whatever, both people like the
security of being with one another.

When a couple is married and get divorced almost always they both get
remarried. This is to say that "Love" or "True Love" should be looked
at as security in a relationship.

I understand that there are many people that are commited to the
Justsayhi website. Many are here to find love while others are just
here for friends. A person can only talk for so long and send so many
e-mails before it is time to see if this person is the one. I don't
feel that this makes you a player but is part of the new generation of
internet dating. You can only truly find out if the person is right for
you by a one on one encounter. This does not have to be sex, it could
merely be dinner or a movie. It does not take long for both sides to
know if this person is right for them.

Hope this has been of some help, my 2 cents worth.

friends and if love comes my way ill go for it

The ones on here looking for friendship and love have the right idea.
Only through true friendship can a person become truly in love with
another person. Friendship is the foundation that all of us rely on to
build our love...or what I refer to as "Security".

Friendship is great and should never be challenged. Great friends make
the best couples.

NEED TO RECLAIRAFY.....

I CAME HERE LOOKING FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE....


BUT I DO NOT FEEL THAT SOMEONE ""IS ON THIS SITE FOR ME..



SO I WILL ACCEPT FRIENDSHIP...