i just say hi when i meet a girl. i ask how she is doing. i look her in the eyes only. it doesn't work..

goodluck!

everything i have tired as failed. being confident not being confident. dressing in fited clothes, begger clothes. changing my hair. being simply myself. nothing has worked.

i even starved myself for months because a girl said i was to fat for any girl. i lost the weight, cleaned up. nothing. gained some weight back nothing happened.

i want to know whats wrong with me.

you've got a great positive spirit, and plenty of humility, and if you stay on here, you'll meet many people in different walks of life, that are in a similar situation, or are looking to teach as well as learn, though it will take time most likely. height is a problem with some girls, but with many on here, they will look past that preference, to see what i can see already see. a guy with real heart....this is for the rest of the time you are here in this life, so enjoy, take your time, post, and browse.....good luck man!

I'll drink to that! Very well stated!

never neglect yourself for others, or chameleon yourself to fit their standards, and do the weight-loss and health work for you, and only you, and stay true to yourself. humans admire this....so does the rest of the animal kingdom.....the others get eaten....or didn't you notice?.....trust in YOU.....

Dont tell people you have never had a GF. But just be a good person and have lots of friends and that will go a long way towards attracting a woman

Dont try to "meet" a girl. Just interact with them normally in your everyday life

thankyou humbly (bows) he CAN DO this!...actually ...he must...does anybody really have a choice?

I'm just gonna grow old with my dog...shes better then most guys. She will never lie to me, never let me down, never go behind my back. shes my little cuddle bug!

My suggestion is get a part time job at some place with a lot of interaction and a variety of age groups and types of people. Believe it or not, a Pizza Delivery job might just do the trick.

I don't know how you are financially...so you may not want to "stoop down" to that kinda thing. But I've worked in A LOT of different kinds of places....military, government, corporate, state, NGO, private, small business. I've done technical, sales, lab, production, customer service, clerical and restaurant...you name it.

But pizza delivery led itself to more social interaction than any other. It's just the nature of the fast paced, close nit, close quartered, but still laid back and somewhat casual environment. Add to that some older staff working a second job...who are usually your salt of the earth types and full of good advice...and the ones with the "granddaughter you just have to meet!" ;) Along with the younger folks...including early twenties ladies who might be looking for just your type. And a high turn over rate for those younger folks...if you're fishing for a date...it's about quantity at this point. Forget waiting for that perfect person...she might be there and gone the next second because you were still evaluating her.

Then take in the high level of social interaction which gives them all a chance to know all sides of you, and you're in dude! You just have to use that environment to let the fun loving, upbeat, go get'em sides of your personality shine! But keep it friendly and loose and I'd darn near guarantee you'll get a date or two out of it.

And don't count anyone out...widen those windows of acceptance...race, age, social standing, physical appearance...don't put anyone in a slot...leave it all in the mix. But keep it, casual...simple...no pressure...even if you think she doesn't really fit any of your other criteria. Even if don't think you would ever consider an actual relationship with her. You might be pleasantly surprised...and even if you aren't...girls like guys who are accepting to all (even the girls who aren't so accepting themselves...they can't help themselves...it's just in their nature to look for that trait in a man). So look past the physical to the inner. If nothing else you could end up with a great friend. And then you've not only made a friend, you've expanded your social circle to include her friends.

And never approach the decision to ask someone out with "I don't know...would I really want a long term relationship with her?" Because dude...no matter how well you know her...you don't know her at all until you've lived with her. So don't even bother trying to figure that one out. If there is ANY interest at all in any aspect of her...she's fair game. But remember, you aren't asking her to marry you...you're asking her to grab a bite after work or something simple like that. So if she says "Naaa." it's all good! So what...it's no real loss. Even if she says "Sure!" it's still not that big a deal...it's just a bite to eat....so don't over think it...don't build it up and cause yourself undo stress...just take it for what it is and let it go where it goes.

I don't mean to sound so calculated...because really I'm not. What I'm saying is, fun-loving, upbeat and positive, be a great guy, an easy friend, an accommodating and understanding person...be the kind of person everyone should be anyway...and you're being the sort of guy that almost any girl will enjoy spending some time with...if they are anyone you'd REALLY want to have long term anyway. Right?

And do it all while having fun and making spending money! Oh and free pizza! ;) Fun, Money, Free Pizza and Girls! Come on...what could be better dude! LOL

Read your own profile. What are you really offering a young woman? Laying around watching a movie, walking in the rain, meeting your needs for useing her time, emotions, and body? Wow what an irresitable offer. You want to get love you have to make it a visable option that you are also going to give love. Since I don't see evidence, at the peak of your work life, that you have a career or any accomplishments you don't look like much of a catch. You might want to take the steps to correct that rather than complaining women don't like you because you are short or don't smile right.

I have never paid for sex but a little bit of and a little bit of would do the trick I am sure

Try "practice women". That is, women who don't make you nervous (too old, too young, etc.) When you're good at that, move on to women you're interested in. My 2 cents. :)

are you are jerk?

I like Chris' advice. I love working with the public, I think that has a lot to do with my confidence level rising over the years. I do a lot of work with seniors, and they are so appreciative of what I do for them, all of the compliments boost me even higher! I have also heard the line about the grandson I just have to meet LOL!

very nice post Chris!

This is the two cents but some people object to your way of thinking. Too bad because every one is entitled to their opinion right or wrong

I just read his profile and it comes across very needy and smothering. That is a turn off for most women.

Just relax

Sounds like your working way to hard for it!

Just be who you are. Don't change to please any woman!!

You'll find her. Just relax