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Topic: need some guidance
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Wed 07/29/09 04:36 PM
I am still stuck on the "boyfriend" thing. I know about on-line relationships, but how can you be a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" without meeting??? This is stranger than the "I have a family emergency" excuse.

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Wed 07/29/09 05:10 PM
Let me explain why I see the Big Red Flags. Two years my significant other at the time was 8 hours away from me on his own family emergency when my father passed away. He called me every morning and eveing to see how I was doing. His voice was a great comfort and helped me get through. This is how you treat someone you care about. You don't ignore them.

Gossipmpm's photo
Wed 07/29/09 05:13 PM
She's done with it!

Jess642's photo
Wed 07/29/09 05:19 PM

Met someone really special on here and began to talk and make plans to meet via flights to one another's hometowns. Fell in love with the girl we connect on soo many levels and everything was flying high. A sudden health problem occurred in her family involving immediate care and I understand fully. We postponed the plans to meet so she could deal with the unfortunate situation. I have total respect for her wishes to spend time with her family during this duration, but being her boyfriend as we have made it official, I told her I am here for her and whenever she needs me call and I'll do anything I can. That said, I have sent her messages everyday for the past 6 days letting her know I'm praying for her and her family and just seeing how she is doing... no response back, left a voicemail last night just to hopefully cheer her up and nothing in return. I understand the stress of her situation, but can I get something back as a phone call or text to lemme know how things are going? Being her boyfriend I feel helpless and lost because I have no direction and no hint as to what to do and how she's doing. Someone experience this or can help please? Thank u!





You have two choices....be who you are, and continue what you are doing, until told otherwise...


Or not.

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Wed 07/29/09 05:20 PM
i think you might have smothered her away. sometimes it only takes a couple of phonecalls a day and she'll feel smothered. you have to feel it out, and back off if need be, but it sounds like to me that it went too far already. give her ton's of space, and let her contact you. if not, you will, or what looks like already have, lost her.....i feel for ya dude!

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