thanks

I guess a lot of things have to do with perspective. When younger its all about physical attraction. As you get older, wiser and sick of the games you start looking for the qualities that will last. While there must be some physical attraction there for the beginning when looking for a relationship each man or women looks for different things.

In response to snarkytwain when she said she does not find the muscled up guys all that good. i see a lot of truth to that. one thing some people need to realize there is a difference between eye candy and someone you date. Eye candy looks good and may be fun for the moment. But often that is it. No real relationship potential because like it was pointed out earlier they can have any women they want so why settle on one.

I think when dating people it sometimes is hard to distinguish between what we want and what we need. often we think we know what we need but only to find out later that was just a want. For example the guy who can go all night sounds great to some women. downside is that's what he always wants to do or can do. Marathon sex is not always what is needed. sometimes a quickie maybe 20 minutes or so is perfect.

My experience has been different. I don't pay much attention to the pics on the threads because they really don't mean much anyway. If I see someone new post, I wish them a welcome cause it seems like the nice thing to do, increases the chances of making new friends, hopefully helps the new people feel welcome and join in the fun thereby increasing the fun, etc.

Sometimes, if someone makes an especially intelligent post or series of posts that catches my attention ( like SnarkyTwain) I will send them a little note and say so. I almost always get a nice response back. Sometimes this grows into a friendly discourse and friendship and sometimes not, but it does not set up a circumstance for hard feelings.

Mingle has a lot of sharp cookies. Many, I will just enjoy their posts of wit and humor and perhaps they will enjoy mine.

Email the people that post in the forums. They will usually reply. I dont know what is up with the non-posters