...skip over her and date the supermodel with the college degree that's got the cutestlittleass.

Or if she really plays hard to get- I play who threw poo like a monkey at a zoo and throw a turd at her. SPLAT!

you always want more what you can't have initially...

Me too.

Seriously, I worry that sometimes it SEEMS I'm playing hard to get when all I'm REALLY doing is being a complete chickensh**.

I'm more worried about women playing hard to get, make the other believe it's worth the effort and at the end they weren't really looking for anything.

What the hell do you consider playing hard to get?


Define for me please.

It's basically playing a game of being "not available immediately" as a date, because " I don't know you well enough", but the guy knows that she got something going for him, she likes to be in the company but refuses to go on a date or kiss in the dark or hold hands... And yet she keeps leaving signs and gestures that she really likes to be in the company of that guy.
It's basically keeping a guy on the hook, not letting him become completely uninterested or turned away, and yet not letting him getting too close.

It could be very annoying after a while if you ask me.

See, here's the deal for me with that definition:

I may very well be interested in you, but I may very well also be dealing with past crap with men that keeps me from allowing myself to get too close. I may be wanting to take it slow and see if you will, too, in respect to me and my wishes. And if you do, that may very well decide weather or not I chose to get serious with you later.

That's not hard to get. That's being smart and mature.

I mean seriously, I am not a fan of mixed messages.

I am a strongly sensual, and sexual person, and if I want someone, I wouldnt want to tease MYSELF for that long to skate around crap, let alone you.


I understand being friends with a man..

I understand flirting, and showing interest.

I understand communicating that you have issues, and arent ready.


I dont understand putting yourself out there like your all single, hot and ready, or interested, when your just gonna yank his chain.

You either do or you dont.

That description Atlantis sounds to me like a woman with low self esteem, and confidence, who is attention seeking, and lacks maturity.

I feel, if a woman has an issue, she shold state it like an adult.

A date is not a commitment.

I suppose this is a good way of weeding out the stupid douchebags for you, be glad you find out upfont.

"A date is not a commitment."

That's my point. I can go on a date with a guy, I can even be interested in him, but I don't HAVE to have sex with him right away. That's not hard to get, that's seeing how the relationship develops.

Yeah, but hard-to-get not necessarily is about sex. It could be just dating or showing more interest than just "talking".

Its unfortunate that "strokin ya" turns me on.

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Ah, but then that leads to a thread I started not too long ago about kissing and making out and it all leading to sex. If I'm interested in a man, I'd love to kiss him, but I'm afraid to because I'm afraid he's going to automatically assume that means I wanna do him right then.

Course, that's also why talking to a man is difficult for me, but I JUST came up with a GREAT way to break that ice... hee!

That's absolutely not true. you might be hanging out with guys who can't keep it in their pants.

I'd rather he think I'm not interested, than think I am interested and he doesn't feel the same. Been there, done that, hated it.

Oh, we had a LONG discussion. I know that now, but it's something I'll have to actually EXPERIENCE to really believe.



Agreed. It ALWAYS sucks to be turned down, but especially sucks to be made fun of for your interest.

Hard to get, is hardly got.

there's a reason i have a tranq gun....