well put shark bait.

as far as the appearance/confidence discussion is above i think it comes down to investment. you can always change your eye color hair style put on weight or gain muscle as easily as taking it off you can get a boob job or go the therapy for confidence issues if you and your partner cant work it out. its comes down to how much is your partner willing to invest in you... would they still be attracted to you if you changed? people do it all the time in their hairstyles or manicures or what shirt or shoes they wear that day.im a big fan of ron whites slogan. you just cant fix stupid. thats just me though.

granny complex much?