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Topic: Not Encouraging...
snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:03 AM
So... how does a woman turn down and otherwise not encourage flirting with a guy she's not interested in without hurting his feelings? I know there's probably been threads like this, but I'm starting a new one so HA!

Lilypetal Joined Wed 02/25/09 Posts: 4052	Sat 07/25/09 07:04 AM
There's really no way to do that. You just have to be as nice as possible.

35TOO Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 10407	Sat 07/25/09 07:06 AM
So... how does a woman turn down and otherwise not encourage flirting with a guy she's not interested in without hurting his feelings? I know there's probably been threads like this, but I'm starting a new one so HA! OK I WONT FLIRT WITH YOU ANYMORE.............

35TOO Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 10407	Sat 07/25/09 07:07 AM
There's really no way to do that. You just have to be as nice as possible. YOUR RIGHT IT ALWAYS HURTS........

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:08 AM
I wasn't talking about you, hon. Not about anyone in particular actually. I was talking about irl actually. Lily... damn. I was hoping there was some trick. I HATE hurting feelings.

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 07/25/09 07:09 AM
you dont love me anymore?

Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Sat 07/25/09 07:13 AM
pull the..."wow, i love you like a brother" line.....just sneak it into a conversation while laughing or something make brother references...eventually he will understand that you ONLY see him as a brother type...let's him down easy and you move on BUUUUT...that is the longer approach....the short approach would entail hurting his feelings

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:15 AM
That would work for a friend, but what about a stranger at a bar? And 7z... NEVER!

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 07/25/09 07:16 AM


motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21803	Sat 07/25/09 07:16 AM
A sharp stick in the eye maybe?

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Sat 07/25/09 07:17 AM Edited by Gossipmpm on Sat 07/25/09 07:25 AM
Just be blunt "GET OUTA MY SPACE!!" Done deal

lonetar25 Joined Mon 05/18/09 Posts: 3531	Sat 07/25/09 07:17 AM
i dont think your hurting a guy by saying your not interested. he may be dissapointed, but i dont belive he would be hurt

muzzwa Joined Sat 07/25/09 Posts: 1	Sat 07/25/09 07:17 AM
Just be truthful ie. sorry not interested

Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Sat 07/25/09 07:22 AM
That would work for a friend, but what about a stranger at a bar? And 7z... NEVER! tell him he reminds you of your ex.....guys hate that and will usually move on...we NEVER want to be THAT guy

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:23 AM
Hm... I'll have to remember that. Thanks for all the advice!

Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Sat 07/25/09 07:24 AM Edited by Nova86 on Sat 07/25/09 07:25 AM
just doing my part to save some poor schmucks feelings well, make that ALOT of poor schmucks feelings lol

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:26 AM
I can also say "little brother", as many of them are WAY younger than me. It's a compliment, yeah, but... no.

Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Sat 07/25/09 07:28 AM
I can also say "little brother", as many of them are WAY younger than me. It's a compliment, yeah, but... no. AHAHAHA...see?? i knew you would catch on quick..."little brother" cracked me up!! wait, are you trying to tell me something?!?!

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:29 AM
Nah, Nova... you'd be one of the few special exceptions.

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Sat 07/25/09 07:30 AM
Just tell me straight!!! So... how does a woman turn down and otherwise not encourage flirting with a guy she's not interested in without hurting his feelings? I know there's probably been threads like this, but I'm starting a new one so HA!