I dated my one ex for 1.5 years. It was a high school thing. No sex or anything since we were younger and such, but when we broke up we did because we didn't have those relationship feelings for one another anymore. She's actually one of my best friends to this day still after many years and we've never looked at eachother like that ever since. So.. yeah I think you can be friends with an ex. As long as you're over them.

Then again if you can't be friends with them then that, to me, means you aren't truly over them so why go date someone else? Why lead someone else on? To me if you're dating someone and afraid that you'll get feelings back from your ex, then don't waste your gf/bf's time. Just because your ex had you first doesn't mean anything.

I'd ask him what he wanted, just out of curiosity. If he wanted to get back together, I'd decline, because he sounds too wishy-washy. But I don't believe ex's can be friends, just not my thing. As for being friends with his ex, yeah, that's asking for trouble.

My ex husband and I are friends again, almost like we were before we married. But that took some major time and healing for us both, and we were married for over a decade. Take your time.

Yes, my ex and I (first girlfriend) dated for a few months about 4 years ago now, and though it took a little bit of time initially the way things ended, we talk from time to time now and we're good friends. In fact I'm actually meeting her for dinner in a few hours, will be really good to see her again after so long.

So it's possible, though some of it can be dependent on how close you were at the time.

EDITED TO ADD:

In your case, if you don't feel you're ready to be friends with him right now or anything else, then don't. Take all the time you need to heal, before going forward.

I dont think it is possible to remain friends with an ex

I was with my gf for... A little over 2 months, about. She spent a whole month constantly telling me she loved me, then dumped me without a reason on MSN. We were even friends for a bit after, but then we fell out, in affect because she wasn't who I thought she was. Couldn't even make up her mind if she liked girls or guys. It's been a year since I last saw her.

Saw her again recently at this party, with her new bird, easily the most overt couple in the place and flaunting it everywhere. Even though she looks totally different and I'm not even attracted to her anymore let alone into her, it still really, really pissed me off seeing her again.

Even now when we chat, I just keep thinking to myself "You're an idiot and I wish you'd shut up." Which is really unreasonable and out of character for me, so I guess by the whole nature of how it was, I can't be friends with her.

As for my other exes, I don't know: I don't have any!

No! not a good idea.. trust me...it will be a disaster!

exactly what i was thinking . i have a longer relationship with the motor oil in my vehicles.

me either, i mean how do you go from seeing this person as a lover/spouse to "just a friend"? How does that work???

I'm friends with my ex..I find it's easier that way...Too much energy to NOT be friends...we get along ok...sometimes we'll get together for dinner, or bowling or just whatever..not often, but enough...Just makes things simple that way...

I have one ex bf that we check in with each other, chit-chat, once every couple of weeks or so, except for that emergency regarding his pit bull being hit by a car. We checked in with each other every couple of days while Spike was healing. Better as friends type of thing. He's definitely a bachelor type.

Sometimes it just happens...I'm good friends with my X...

Most anyone I've ever dated, sure. There's no reason we can't still get along as friends. Although I rarely, if ever, see any of them anymore, there are still a few that I see in town from time to time, and we're still quite civil to each other.

There IS a couple, though, that I would be quite happy to tell to piss up a rope and suck the wet end.

As far as my ex-wife goes, absolutely. We still get along very well.

My ex and I are good friends in fact I'm suddenly missing him....

Maybe ill call...

My experience so far has been not good as far as being friends with the ex. I'm hoping in time we will reach an understanding. It sounds as though he is still hung up on his ex wife and needs time to get over her before he moves on. If you are interested in having a relationship with him at all (in the future) I would shy away from your friendship with his ex. that may be why he has shown interest in contacting you again. Just curious, what prompted you to become her friend to begin with?

I think it depends on the circumstances of the break up.

i think it depends on how long you dragged out the breaking up part.

mostly i figure if we were able to maintain a friendship, why would we have broken up in the first place?

good point