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has she asked for your credit card number yet?  Very funny....... 
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hey, take a chance, fly over there...maybe in conjunction with a vacation/group of friends or something..meet her in person...but be prepared for the worst case...if she doesn't like you, are you prepared for that...worse yet, is she likes you, and asks for things such as money or involvment in something fishy.....are you prepared for that
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He's liked her a long time but never acted on it? Oh well...his loss. I say you two go for it.
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Edited by
Kleisto
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hey, take a chance, fly over there...maybe in conjunction with a vacation/group of friends or something..meet her in person...but be prepared for the worst case...if she doesn't like you, are you prepared for that...worse yet, is she likes you, and asks for things such as money or involvment in something fishy.....are you prepared for that roko I'm not worried about the money aspect, that much I trust she's who she says. Though if I flew out there, I'd probably go once first to see how things went, before deciding on any relocation after that. |
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IMHO, if she felt as "bonded" with you as you say you do with her the "other guy" would be getting less interesting to her every day. If you are thinking of stepping aside to see what develops between them and she thinks that may be necessary, she isn't that interested in you. Sorry.
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IMHO, if she felt as "bonded" with you as you say you do with her the "other guy" would be getting less interesting to her every day. If you are thinking of stepping aside to see what develops between them and she thinks that may be necessary, she isn't that interested in you. Sorry. I don't know if that is quite the case, she is rather interested in me and has said so, but also wishes to give the other guy a fair shake too, which is proper I would suppose. |
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Define "fair shake"? You say this other guy has liked her "for a long time". How long does he need to decide whether he wants more??? I think he is a non issue, or he'd have made a point of attempting more than friendship with her, no?
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Dude! It's the internet. You've talked to her for a couple of months on line. Take a deep breath and slow down.
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If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was yours...
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If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was yours... I have thought about this too lately, particularly that if it is meant to be it will happen one way or the other. It's the waiting in the meantime that is tough. |
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Edited by
Kleisto
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Mon 07/20/09 06:36 PM
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Define "fair shake"? You say this other guy has liked her "for a long time". How long does he need to decide whether he wants more??? I think he is a non issue, or he'd have made a point of attempting more than friendship with her, no? Perhaps, and there is a little more to it then that as I said. I'm not totally sure where his intentions are, how much he really cares for her, and she's not quite either, but she's in the process of finding out so.... |
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Ok so to make a long story short, I met someone online a few months ago. We talked for a while, just a one time thing at the time seemed like. Few nights back she sends me a message out of the blue, and we started talking again. This time, our chat turned into a really deep talk about many things, and we've chatted daily since (with the exception of yesterday) in the same fashion. We get along real well, understand each other, care for each other, and we both are beginning to develop rather strong feelings for the other. Except there's one little problem..... In her area (she's in Australia for the record), there's a guy that has liked her for a long time, but never really acted on it. They've talked a bit off and on, and she's not sure what's going to happen there. Now we've talked of things before, as far as me coming between them, or putting her in a position where she's choosing between him or me basically. I don't want her to be in a spot like that, I want her to be happy, whether she ended up with me or not, as much as I may wish to be with her. Having said all of that, I've been thinking that maybe her and I should sort of cease talk for now while she figures out everything in her head, as to what she wants, and just what is going on. I want her to be able to make a decision clearly, for her, not for me or this other guy, but for her. I was gonna talk with her about this next time she's online, but wanted to know what you guys thought of it all? Would it be ok to still be communicating with her here, or should I back off as I'm thinking? The minute you tell her that you think the two of you should stop talking while she sorts it out... You put her in a position of having to choose between you and him. You said you wanted to avoid that. |
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Ok so to make a long story short, I met someone online a few months ago. We talked for a while, just a one time thing at the time seemed like. Few nights back she sends me a message out of the blue, and we started talking again. This time, our chat turned into a really deep talk about many things, and we've chatted daily since (with the exception of yesterday) in the same fashion. We get along real well, understand each other, care for each other, and we both are beginning to develop rather strong feelings for the other. Except there's one little problem..... In her area (she's in Australia for the record), there's a guy that has liked her for a long time, but never really acted on it. They've talked a bit off and on, and she's not sure what's going to happen there. Now we've talked of things before, as far as me coming between them, or putting her in a position where she's choosing between him or me basically. I don't want her to be in a spot like that, I want her to be happy, whether she ended up with me or not, as much as I may wish to be with her. Having said all of that, I've been thinking that maybe her and I should sort of cease talk for now while she figures out everything in her head, as to what she wants, and just what is going on. I want her to be able to make a decision clearly, for her, not for me or this other guy, but for her. I was gonna talk with her about this next time she's online, but wanted to know what you guys thought of it all? Would it be ok to still be communicating with her here, or should I back off as I'm thinking? The minute you tell her that you think the two of you should stop talking while she sorts it out... You put her in a position of having to choose between you and him. You said you wanted to avoid that. Interesting.......maybe so I suppose. I just thought it'd be easier for her to decide, having more time to focus on him alone, as opposed to both of us. Though then again.....kinda late for that now isn't it? At the least I was gonna talk to her about slowing things down regarding each other though. |
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you tricked me when you said long story short, didnt you omg thats f'ing funny |
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IMHO, if she felt as "bonded" with you as you say you do with her the "other guy" would be getting less interesting to her every day. If you are thinking of stepping aside to see what develops between them and she thinks that may be necessary, she isn't that interested in you. Sorry. I don't know if that is quite the case, she is rather interested in me and has said so, but also wishes to give the other guy a fair shake too, which is proper I would suppose. You like her a lot, you have very deep feelings for her. Deep meaninful conversations and she could love you if you treated her as you said you would, but yet she thinks the guy (with unknown intentions) needs a fair shake. Would you give another lady a fair shake if she were to begin showing interest in you? All I am saying is that you may be more wrapped up in her than she is in you. If you were both on the same page she wouldn't be interested in the other guy. I am not saying to end things, just protect your heart a bit by slowing down. |
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IMHO, if she felt as "bonded" with you as you say you do with her the "other guy" would be getting less interesting to her every day. If you are thinking of stepping aside to see what develops between them and she thinks that may be necessary, she isn't that interested in you. Sorry. I don't know if that is quite the case, she is rather interested in me and has said so, but also wishes to give the other guy a fair shake too, which is proper I would suppose. You like her a lot, you have very deep feelings for her. Deep meaninful conversations and she could love you if you treated her as you said you would, but yet she thinks the guy (with unknown intentions) needs a fair shake. Would you give another lady a fair shake if she were to begin showing interest in you? All I am saying is that you may be more wrapped up in her than she is in you. If you were both on the same page she wouldn't be interested in the other guy. I am not saying to end things, just protect your heart a bit by slowing down. Yeah I'm trying but it's hard. I think about her all the time, I want to hear from her so bad, to know what she's thinking, what's happening on her end. It's been almost a week since we chatted, I thought I'd talk to her today cause it's end of the school week there now (Friday night), but she hasn't came online, so not sure when I'll hear from her. It's torture really, playing this waiting game. |
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DON'T. DO. IT. !!!!!!!!
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DON'T. DO. IT. !!!!!!!! I can't imagine myself being with anyone else right now though to be quite honest. I'm probably overanalyzing a lot of this however, and need to relax a little bit. |
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Edited by
Kleisto
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Mon 07/27/09 04:23 AM
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So it's been a week now, and still no sign of her. Maybe she went and did something this weekend who knows, but I'm not sure how long I can wait to find out. For now I'm just looking for friends otherwise least till I make sense of this, although I met someone last night who could be relationship material down the line depending, but not totally sure what the future is going to bring here.
I hate this unknown feeling.....(sighs) 
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