I would love to hear opinions on this. I have been single for a while now, and wondering if I should just accept that I am not a woman of these times.
I am the type of woman who prefers a man to ask her out. I prefer for the man to do most of the courting, showing his intentions, getting to know eachother at a somewhat slow pace. Once a man has won my heart, then I break loose with my attention and affection. (I am not dead!)
But I notice so many women responding to "hook ups" or hollering at men, approaching men for dates, even sex. And then it seems they come crying back because they get treated like trash.
Now granted I am alone. I am constantly being asked why am I single, and I reply "Cause noone asks me out." To which I always get, well why dont YOU ask THEM...
I have considered trying to change and losen up a bit, but it just doesnt feel right for me.
So what do you all think? And YES I know the year....

You can get a man

youre not old fashioned at all! ur actually doing it right! touche!

Some has to do with your age, background, what you consider to be romantic. Some of those things you made mention of by some other ladies you know are in part due to a fear of being alone, or "that's the way to get a man" mentality. Taking a quick lok at your profile, very strong willed person and some men may be a little "skeered" of asking for fear of rejection. Some ladies do not come off as being approachable even when they really are. Many things I guess could be said and may before this thread finishes. I can add that you are very attractive, but a Jets Fan? Really now! Just kidding! LOL!

I am pretty much in the same boat. I share the same traits with ya. I'm even waiting until I'm married. But that's a promise I made to myself. It just seems like it will be forever to run into someone with old-fashioned values. But they are out there.

ME???? UNAPROACHABLE???? WOW, I never ever thought of myself like that.

And OH YEAH, I love my Jersey JETS!

You're going to be okay. It takes time to find a good old fashioned guy. Be patient and put yourself out there for a while.

U ain't alone Hun, I'm the same way. I dont' even email a guy first.

Despite what others may think ... I am a very old fashioned in a lot of my views on dating.

I feel up-to-speed on pop culture, and I love not being a prude but when it comes to dating and marriage -- I have raised the bar!

I like to be asked out rather than "hey, you wanna chill?"

I like manners and etiquette; don’t ask me out for Friday night on Friday afternoon.

I will not live with a guy before marriage.

I appreciate a man who wants to spoil me; however, I will contribute to a relationship. The modern economy is not built for one-sided finances.

Be patient and keep your bar raised. You will meet the right guy. Do not settle!

Maybe not but you do start great bodily function threads.

May have to go back and carefully consider if YOU are unapproachable!! LOL! Simply meant that I do know some ladies that are like yourself and want to be asked, not do the asking. But honestly, their attitude they have taken puts off all but the aggressive nature guys, and tha's not always good. This is good thread, reminds me of the guys that if only the girl would encourage him just a little, he would become superman! Thoughts on that?

Nothing wring with old fashioned.


Its just that old fashioned doesnt mean being a doormat or wearing a berka, orr whatever.

Its true you have to put yourself out there. Noones gonna know your interested if you never show it. Even in old days women were responsive to men.

Might just have to knock the cobwebs off that one

Great, I've been feeling a little backed up lately.

So true! The guys that do approach me are generally the jerks. I just never saw myself as unapproachable...I mean I am no hottie or anything.

Also note...my screen name...seriously just say hi...

Anyone that says you are unapproachable probably doesn't have the confidence to approach you.

Being 'hot' has little to do with poise.

Your attitude and self-belief is what is most important and that shines through!

Keep that vibe!

I do say HI! And please remember it's not just "beauty in the eye of the beholder", it's also Hottie! You have a wonderful profile, and I say there are many working up the nerve to say something witty to catch your attention. Men are still boys after all, you know! I mean just cause I never did one of those!!!

I don't consider that to be old-fashioned. I consider it to be normal.