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wwhaa wwait wwaa?? i thought umm well, what? hey what the hel.... ohhh never mind...... 
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He says you don't trust him because he is cheating on you. He's using the offense is the best defense approach. Dump him. 
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Do you really want to teach him a lesson? Marry him
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 Am I wrong?: How much is too much to talk to an ex? My boyfriend talk to his ex too much,and she calls too much 3 times a day also caught im in a lie They went to a movie behind my back I don't know what to do becuz this is hurting me He says I don't trust him
Wrong? not sure yet, as don't know the whole situation. Talking to ex too much? Don't know if 3 times a day is to much or not. If there is a special needs child involved, possibly not. If there is no kid involved, well, YES!!! The movie with the ex? Well, that sounds like a date to me! If he's sneaking around to go out on what appears to be a date with hi, what else is he doing? "He says I don't trust him." Duh! What's to trust when he lies to you about going on what appears to be a date with someone that, for what ever reason, he's not with anymore. The only answer to "you don't trust me" is Damn straight! Now either explain yourself, or git your azz to the curb! Either you are important enough for him to be honest with, or you aren't. And since honesty with each other is part of what love is supposed to be (as in choosing to be with that person), and a cornerstone in a relationship (even more so in an intimate relationship), then if he can't, the point blank answer is that he isn't in love with you, he's in lust with you, and only wanting you for your body. If lust is ok with you, and you can tolerate his possibly ongoing behavior, and the lack of respect inherant in such a relationship, then do nothing. If it's not, then you and he need to talk, and he needs to explain what happened. If it's making you insecure in the relationship, and he values the relationship, then he will fess up. HTH |
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Am I wrong?: How much is too much to talk to an ex? My boyfriend talk to his ex too much,and she calls too much 3 times a day also caught im in a lie They went to a movie behind my back I don't know what to do becuz this is hurting me He says I don't trust him
Wrong? not sure yet, as don't know the whole situation. Talking to ex too much? Don't know if 3 times a day is to much or not. If there is a special needs child involved, possibly not. If there is no kid involved, well, YES!!! The movie with the ex? Well, that sounds like a date to me! If he's sneaking around to go out on what appears to be a date with hi, what else is he doing? "He says I don't trust him." Duh! What's to trust when he lies to you about going on what appears to be a date with someone that, for what ever reason, he's not with anymore. The only answer to "you don't trust me" is Damn straight! Now either explain yourself, or git your azz to the curb! Either you are important enough for him to be honest with, or you aren't. And since honesty with each other is part of what love is supposed to be (as in choosing to be with that person), and a cornerstone in a relationship (even more so in an intimate relationship), then if he can't, the point blank answer is that he isn't in love with you, he's in lust with you, and only wanting you for your body. If lust is ok with you, and you can tolerate his possibly ongoing behavior, and the lack of respect inherant in such a relationship, then do nothing. If it's not, then you and he need to talk, and he needs to explain what happened. If it's making you insecure in the relationship, and he values the relationship, then he will fess up. HTH Great answer. You really put some thought into this
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Am I wrong?: How much is too much to talk to an ex? My boyfriend talk to his ex too much,and she calls too much 3 times a day also caught im in a lie They went to a movie behind my back I don't know what to do becuz this is hurting me He says I don't trust him
Regardless of if its "harmless" or not he should not be lying about it. If it hurts you then its wrong even if that is not his intention. If she is the one initiating the contact then he needs to tell her to respect the fact that he has a new GF now. If he is the on initiating the contact then he's not over her. Either way something needs to change. This IS inappropriate behavior IMHO. |
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He's cheating. I feel weird just reading about the whole issue. And he does need to choose between the past and the present. And if he won't, leave him. You deserve better
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Am I wrong?: How much is too much to talk to an ex? My boyfriend talk to his ex too much,and she calls too much 3 times a day also caught im in a lie They went to a movie behind my back I don't know what to do becuz this is hurting me He says I don't trust him
Regardless of if its "harmless" or not he should not be lying about it. If it hurts you then its wrong even if that is not his intention. If she is the one initiating the contact then he needs to tell her to respect the fact that he has a new GF now. If he is the on initiating the contact then he's not over her. Either way something needs to change. This IS inappropriate behavior IMHO.  Thanks for the Irish advice
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Am I wrong?: How much is too much to talk to an ex? My boyfriend talk to his ex too much,and she calls too much 3 times a day also caught im in a lie They went to a movie behind my back I don't know what to do becuz this is hurting me He says I don't trust him
Regardless of if its "harmless" or not he should not be lying about it. If it hurts you then its wrong even if that is not his intention. If she is the one initiating the contact then he needs to tell her to respect the fact that he has a new GF now. If he is the on initiating the contact then he's not over her. Either way something needs to change. This IS inappropriate behavior IMHO. I agree i'm going to pack his stuff soon
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He's cheating. I feel weird just reading about the whole issue. And he does need to choose between the past and the present. And if he won't, leave him. You deserve better  Yes she deserves better
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Am I wrong?: How much is too much to talk to an ex? My boyfriend talk to his ex too much,and she calls too much 3 times a day also caught im in a lie They went to a movie behind my back I don't know what to do becuz this is hurting me He says I don't trust him
Regardless of if its "harmless" or not he should not be lying about it. If it hurts you then its wrong even if that is not his intention. If she is the one initiating the contact then he needs to tell her to respect the fact that he has a new GF now. If he is the on initiating the contact then he's not over her. Either way something needs to change. This IS inappropriate behavior IMHO. I agree i'm going to pack his stuff soon
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I heard this once... Never make some one a priority who only makes you an option. |
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Not really.
I have my kids for the summer, so kids are on my mind. My ex and I don't get along very well... She's mad or something with me, and I haven't figured out yet why, when she was the one that cheated, and intiated the divorce, and continues to have the government mug me every payday. Over the past 8 years, I have learned that I am worth being leveled with, and if she doesn't want to recognize that, then good riddance to bad garbage; and I can only keep praying that my kids turn out to be nothing like her. Sometimes, the past can be learned from, even if it still sometimes hurts.  
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I heard this once... Never make some one a priority who only makes you an option.  That's right
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it sounds like he is a player hun ...
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Not really. I have my kids for the summer, so kids are on my mind. My ex and I don't get along very well... She's mad or something with me, and I haven't figured out yet why, when she was the one that cheated, and intiated the divorce, and continues to have the government mug me every payday. Over the past 8 years, I have learned that I am worth being leveled with, and if she doesn't want to recognize that, then good riddance to bad garbage; and I can only keep praying that my kids turn out to be nothing like her. Sometimes, the past can be learned from, even if it still sometimes hurts.
Well said
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I heard this once... Never make some one a priority who only makes you an option. I posted that on my bathroom mirror 8 years ago
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it sounds like he is a player hun ...
I agree
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I heard this once... Never make some one a priority who only makes you an option. I posted that on my bathroom mirror 8 years ago
It is some good advice
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