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Topic: Childless man freed after serving time for child support
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Thu 07/16/09 07:06 PM
what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.

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Thu 07/16/09 07:09 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 07/16/09 07:11 PM

what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.
He has the RIGHT to contest it!!!! My problem was he wouldnt until they split and they went after him for support..Then he came forward and said my daughter wasn't his...My hands were tied for 11 years trying to get it proven...

I was the MAILMAN!!!!

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Thu 07/16/09 07:11 PM


what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.
He has the RIGHT to contest it!!!! My problem was he wouldnt until they split and they went after him for support..Then he came forward and said my daughter wasn't his...My hands were tied for 11 years trying to get it proven...

I was the MAILMAN!!!!


crazy world IMO

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Thu 07/16/09 07:12 PM


what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.
He has the RIGHT to contest it!!!! My problem was he wouldnt until they split and they went after him for support..Then he came forward and said my daughter wasn't his...My hands were tied for 11 years trying to get it proven...

I was the MAILMAN!!!!


first time i actually heard a mailman getting pin for a deed besides on delivering the mail LOL!!!

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Thu 07/16/09 07:13 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 07/16/09 07:14 PM



what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.
He has the RIGHT to contest it!!!! My problem was he wouldnt until they split and they went after him for support..Then he came forward and said my daughter wasn't his...My hands were tied for 11 years trying to get it proven...

I was the MAILMAN!!!!


crazy world IMO
It ended good..I have had her since!!!! Of course 11 yrs after her birth..

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Thu 07/16/09 07:15 PM

what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.


That is what I went through. If you are married in Wisconsin, it is assumed it is the husband's child. DNA tests can not be done (unless the mother's life is in danger" or something like that, very rare for a DNA test of a fetus. Here you have to wait until the baby is 3 months old. I've been through it. It SUCKS. Being there when the baby is born, then finding out you are not the father. Really sucks. I can't say it enough.

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Thu 07/16/09 07:24 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 07/16/09 07:25 PM


what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.


That is what I went through. If you are married in Wisconsin, it is assumed it is the husband's child. DNA tests can not be done (unless the mother's life is in danger" or something like that, very rare for a DNA test of a fetus. Here you have to wait until the baby is 3 months old. I've been through it. It SUCKS. Being there when the baby is born, then finding out you are not the father. Really sucks. I can't say it enough.
I was on the other end. I was the guy she cheat with. I tried for 11 yrs to get my legal right to her....Couldnt do it until one of them came forward!!!

She was serperated from him when we got together but went back to him before the child was born..

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Thu 07/16/09 07:34 PM



what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.


That is what I went through. If you are married in Wisconsin, it is assumed it is the husband's child. DNA tests can not be done (unless the mother's life is in danger" or something like that, very rare for a DNA test of a fetus. Here you have to wait until the baby is 3 months old. I've been through it. It SUCKS. Being there when the baby is born, then finding out you are not the father. Really sucks. I can't say it enough.
I was on the other end. I was the guy she cheat with. I tried for 11 yrs to get my legal right to her....Couldnt do it until one of them came forward!!!

She was serperated from him when we got together but went back to him before the child was born..


You could still get a lawyer to grant a DNA test, if you had proof she was with you. She did not come after you for child support I take it.

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Thu 07/16/09 07:36 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 07/16/09 07:47 PM




what I really can't agree with is the husband is responsible even if the wife cheats and it's not his baby.


That is what I went through. If you are married in Wisconsin, it is assumed it is the husband's child. DNA tests can not be done (unless the mother's life is in danger" or something like that, very rare for a DNA test of a fetus. Here you have to wait until the baby is 3 months old. I've been through it. It SUCKS. Being there when the baby is born, then finding out you are not the father. Really sucks. I can't say it enough.
I was on the other end. I was the guy she cheat with. I tried for 11 yrs to get my legal right to her....Couldnt do it until one of them came forward!!!

She was serperated from him when we got together but went back to him before the child was born..


You could still get a lawyer to grant a DNA test, if you had proof she was with you. She did not come after you for child support I take it.
NO!!!!!!!! Only 3 people have that right!!!!!! Mother,father or child...When theres a marriage involved!!Its that way here and Ohio as I fought in both states to have it done!!!





If the couples married he is automatically the legal father whether he is or not.....There ARE only 3 people that can contest an established paternity (Legally married) and that is the mother, the father or the child...That is the law as I found out the hard way..In other words a married woman can point the finger at the mailman but the mailman cant point the finger at the married woman...



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Thu 07/16/09 07:46 PM
Well Temp, I feel for you. Makes you cautious, doesn't it? Another Double standard in our laws. And when it comes to kids, it seems to vary widely state by state. I heard, and it might be wrong, but in some states, you can sue a man for sleeping with your wife, and vice verse, if you can prove they Knew the other was married. They knowingly slept with a married person and caused the divorce. interesting but hard to prove.

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Thu 07/16/09 07:49 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 07/16/09 07:54 PM

Well Temp, I feel for you. Makes you cautious, doesn't it? Another Double standard in our laws. And when it comes to kids, it seems to vary widely state by state. I heard, and it might be wrong, but in some states, you can sue a man for sleeping with your wife, and vice verse, if you can prove they Knew the other was married. They knowingly slept with a married person and caused the divorce. interesting but hard to prove.
Thats the Law in Ohio and Florida....Its WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She was seperated when we were together!!! Its all good now!!!!!

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Thu 07/16/09 07:56 PM
Fathers for Equal rights....Excelent group in about every state!!!!

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Thu 07/16/09 07:57 PM
Well here, technically, separated is still married. I'm glad it is all good. What if the child gets older and wonders why about this or that? Or will it be a secret? Good? maybe, but it could come back to haunt those involved. I was adopted and figured it out by the age of 12. peace.

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Thu 07/16/09 07:59 PM

Well here, technically, separated is still married. I'm glad it is all good. What if the child gets older and wonders why about this or that? Or will it be a secret? Good? maybe, but it could come back to haunt those involved. I was adopted and figured it out by the age of 12. peace.
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