After finding out i was pregnant my now ex fiancee requested that me an my son move in2 tha house he was living in wit his parents. This was supposed 2 b a 6month temporary arrangement so we could save some money b4 getting our own place. Tha 6months passed an he made up some excuse 4 why we shouldnt move yet...the excuses kept coming 4 3yrs. Afta 3yrs of living in 1 room not only wit him bu also wit my now 8yr old son an 2yr old daughter i cracked up an told him i wanted out of his parents house NOW tha kids needed their own rooms an i needed my own space....instead of coming thru on his promises he broke up wit me...he is 30yrs old, has always lived wit his parents works 4 his parents an his mother handles all his financials... Is this rite....is it a bad reflection on me or is he jus pathetic???

And you did believe him?

Maybe you are pathetic?

Hmmmmmmmmmmm. It took three years to figure this guy out? JMO, he is not going anywhere after 30 years. I would run fast.

Yeah he seems pathetic.... You should definitely get out of that... those kids need there own rooms
Never believe a man... they never keep promises

Mayb i am pathetic bu i loved him i believed his excuses an we looked at soooo many houses, we even bought furniture an i mean every piece of furniture u need 4 ur own home im now staying at my parents house wit my kids, he wont give me any of tha furniture an hez taking me 2 court 4 custody of my daughter i dont know him anymore

Well, then I'd think you never did.

An u would b rite i guess that answers my question thanku

I think at some stage or other we have all been there and done that, it's time to review our perspectives and make new plans.

Oh wow, I'm so sorry.

Try not to blame yourself, but rather learn from what happened. You can't fix what has already occurred, but you can choose what you do and how you do it from here on out.

In the future, just try to get into the 'show me' mentality, as words are only words, and sadly many people out there say lots of things. Many he meant them at the moment he said them, or just said what he said to keep you happy...

Again, I'm so sorry you got hurt. Make sure in the custody thing you ask for a parenting evaluation, so you can show the court his inability to live and care for the child independently. That is very important.

Stay strong!

Marry him

He chose a free ride over responsibility. Not the kind of man you need to help you raise your children.

Never understood the idea of having to chose, a friend/lover over a parent/family.

Never understood the idea of having someone asking me to chose, why chose?

That is just sad that he kept making excuses, you were in the right to say that u wanted out of his parents house, mainly because the kids needed there own space. I honestly think that he got scared and that is why he lept making excuses.

Already wit ya lilith tha trials not ova yet bu tha judge already told him he wouldnt take her from me an giv her 2 him 2 giv 2 his mother so i hav temp custody till final order an hav tha evaluation next week i dont think hel win bu it stil hurts like hell in tha process an ur rite again invisible, im lookn ahead now, if anythn my kids keep me strong il bounce bak

I am sorry i would have given up after a year. There is no way I would allow my children to sleep and even stay in that kind of condition. They have and always will come first. They are are what is most important. They should not be suffering just because mommy is in love. The love of my children will always over power the love of any guy. Three years is just a ridiculous amount of time.

Excuse me! Blanket statements suck btw.

As I knew you would.

Only when it suits.

I didnt ask him 2 choose he works 4 his parents hez wit them all day its not like hed neva see them, b4 i moved bak 2 my parents house i visited them all tha time its great 2 hav a good relationship wit ur parents, all i asked him 2 do was come thru on his promise, stand up an b tha husband an father he told me hed be. I wasnt askin him 2 disown his parents.

I was commenting on your OP title -

As far as his coming through on his promise - he didn't but why didn't you act/react sooner? (not judging but curious)