It is not hard at all for a guy to find a date! The hard part is getting the woman to say yes when asked!

It's basic math, really.

Interestingly, online interaction has made me more confident IRL. Much easier to ask a woman for a date, and if she says no, not the end of my world.

Are you sure it's the girls that are too picky? lol.

"what a man has to go through for a piece of a$$ in a modern age is highly rediculous" - Apollo 440, "Tears of the Gods"




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Great question to the original poster. I've asked that same question to myself more times than I can count. There are so many odds against us in the race. For instance, women are picky, but for good reason for the fact that there are plenty of buttholes out there that have ruined it for us outstanding guys. We outstanding guys don't come around often because the cocky jerks steal women like pieces of meat (Ladies, I'm not implying that you are pieces of meat, so please don't take it that way). Another thing is that of preference, whether it be skin color, personality, body type, etc. I admit that a lot lately I've been setting my sights on Latinas because of their general personality, faithfulness, and skin color, but it's driving me crazy when I see all these other guys catching them first, especially because of they are darker. Frankly, it pisses me off. I know that a woman will be happy with me once she gets to know me...but what is it that I don't have that other guys do?? Don't answer confidence, because I have confidence. I hear alot of women say they want a nice guy, but I'm starting to not believe that, because they seem to go for buttholes that beat them, talk to them like garbage, get them pregnant and run out on them, etc. etc.

This is really how I feel right now...I'm pissed, frustrated in many ways, lonely as hell and feel like I get the cold shoulder way too much. AND I'm not an ugly guy. I'm handsome, loyal, funny and a helluva lotta fun. Hell, I get to see and talk to a whole lot of extremely nice ladies that come to shop where I work, but because of the "professional environment" I have no shot with them. Tell me, would it not create awkwardness or pressure? Correct me if I'm wrong, please.

Furthermore, I have been picky before, but it narrows down my search so much that I've started to realize that I may pass by my future love entirely if I don't see deeper than I have been. However, I still get this feeling like when I get so excited that a woman notices me that I have this thought in the back of my mind that I don't need to do or say anything that would seem overbearing or desperate, because like every guy, I want a fair shot.

Ok, I've raved enough and maybe this post should get posted in another forum, too. But I really feel like at least bringing this out in the open makes me feel a little better and hopefully understood. Thanks for reading.

~Clay W.

apparently pretty hard it's been a long time

It's not hard to get a date.. It's hard to get the date you want... So many moan and groan about not getting a date or meeting someone, yet they never stop to ask "hmmmm could it be my expectations?" Not saying to lower your expectations, just be realistic with your question... I don't have a date b/c of my expectations, I know and accept this and I don't complain that it's hard to get a date... just sayin'

Never expect more than you can offer

I think a lot of guys try to be too subtle. If you just come out and ask if a girl would like to go grab a cup of coffee; you might be surprised how many dates you get.

Noooo, they will reject me

yeah, but i don't like coffee.


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Same here, can't stand the stuff.

Plus there's no one around here to ask, anyway. If there was, I wouldn't be trying to meet someone on a dating site!

Coffee

I think we just found the problem... No one likes coffee..

I love coffee, I am also a fan of the 'Lunch date' too.

WOW ok an ice cream..lactose intollerent? a soda...petic ulcer? Lunch!!! can't go wrong with that....just pick a place with a varied menu so there is some thing anyone would like.... Must I spoon feed?

Can't help you with the no women, Lex. My only suggestion would be to relocate.

We aren't picky. We just know what we want.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9qUZHIpJAw