I finally did not answer my mans text...I know it sounds like a game but I think hes just using me...I figure if he really likes me for me then he will call again or show up at my work...just tired of being used.

yeah thats like my ex the more i ignored the more attention i got from him but as soon as i started giving him attention he ran away!

Good 4 you mry.

If there are red flags, you need to act on them.
NO ONE should ALLOW themselves to be used.
You Do have CONTROL

I agree (FINALLY!) I was there at his beck and call...now if he wants me he can come to me. If he doesn't its his loss. It took me a long time to get here.

Why play the "ignore" game? If you feel that he is using you, communicate, bring it out in the open and end the relationship.

I detest user's.
Life is to short, be truthful, open & let ALL enjoy life.

No games!!!!

Confront the man!!!!
Face to face!!!!

Tell him everything you feel!!

Let the ball be in his court

I agree...I just was not ready for that yet...

We all have to deal with life, as we chose & in our own time.

I guess I want him to know how it feels to not have a call returned...yeah hes always there but ONLY when HE feels like it.I have been afraid of the truth for some time now....

i am confused you want to be stalked at work? You want him to pursue you at work?

If he cannot return calls maybe he is busy??

Never wait for anyone. I have learned, if they don't make time for you, move on.

I agree

I'd just address any issues open communication is the only way someone will know what issues you have with each other

So does he text only or something?

that's a narcissitic way to live...

instead, why not try to be honest and forthright - don't keep people guessing - treat people as you would want to be treated.

"in your own time", "as you choose"... sorry I dont agree...

to the OP - glad you are growing, step by step - but you would want to be told, not ignored -- wouldnt you?

Why not just text back if you cannot be direct in person "stop using me or i'm outta!!", hmmm - not hard to type...

I truly appreciate that not answering his text took growth and strength on your part. Congratulations on both! BUT I also think that at one time or another we all make the mistake of expecting/wanting our mate to know what we need, to be mind readers, none of us really are so you have to tell the other what it is....if they listen and try then - good. If not, give up, let go and move on. Keep the growth and strength, use them in your life and your next relationship. (or this one if he listens and stops taking you for granted)

This does sound like a game to me. It sounds like manipulation. I don't understand how ignoring him is really resolving any of your issues. If you feel like you are at his beck and call, that's on you, not him.

I'm sorry... This is not adult behavior. Sounds like high school games.

If you think there's a problem then confront it square on. This will accomplish NOTHING.