So, you are out having a good time and you meet a great guy (or girl). You exchange phone numbers. When they get in touch with you would you rather they call or send you a text and why?

text. I am often too busy to talk on the phone but I can almost always spare a few seconds to send a text. Even if all we do is arrange a time to call, lol.

text... it's more casual and yet still letting me know you wanna talk to me.
I don't wanna hold a whole textersation tho

texting! i have unlimited texting and well i like it alot more and plus i got a new phone so i have the need to text!

calling is more personal though..so if you have balls and you really really like the person calling will be better..but why calling or testing if you can meet :D

text unless you never get to talk to them at all....texting works better for me because I can think about what I want to say and delete if I make a mistake lolol

I am not picky. Text is probably better, then I can ask them to attach a picture, since I was probably too drunk to remember what they look like hahah

CALL!

I think our society has become so "depersonalized"...and everyone states they are "soooo busy...didn't have time to call". Sorry, but if you have time to tippy-type out a moronic text...you have time to call, even if to leave a "personal" voicemail message. Trust me, I will NOT keep you on the line for long, as I hate to talk on the phone and I'm likely busy too. But, please, at least make me feel a little special by saying you mean enough to me to actually TALK to you (or leave a message where you can hear my voice), ok?

Sure, I "text" with a very few in my life...but RARELY, and they all know I HATE to text. And if you choose to text me, please...for the love of God and all that is holy...do NOT use "text speak" with me. In the time it took "you" to text, you could have easily have just called!!!

Either or, I prefer to talk but I can text just as well...doesn't really matter to me, my phone needs the use otherwise I'm paying 50 something dollars for a paperweight.

I would actually love for him to call me....but I would prefer to text him....I get nervous easily....

Get over it!

I'm shy and nervous too...but, prefer to have my "voice" heard rather than hiding behind yet another "screen"...computer or cell phone.

Just do like I do with folks I "call"...pray/hope/wish/pray some more...that you get the voicemail!!

Call. Human voices are nicer then texts.

Both are great. If I find her attractive, then I would prefer a phone call...usually however it works the other way around.

roko

i like to schedule a meet at the time i get the phone number...
usually if i know her well enough to get a number then i will
know her well enough to schedule our next meeting. makes it all
easier. unless she's drunk. then i try to catch her on a better
night. unless i'm drunk. in which case, i probably forget anyway.
but i haven't been drunk in like - 15 years so i don't really
worry about that anymore.

I have done that before....lololol *Please voicemail, please voicemail, please voicemail* Takes away the initial fear and nervousness...

if you text, just remember that he/she will certainly take this as a distinct lack of interest. so you better frickin' call. and when you do - it will be awkward. they will not remember you and will worry that you are probably the weird acting one who their friends warned them about - which you are! this will necessitate a second call or text. which again cannot be a text for the same reason. this will be even more awkward but mercifully you'll probably only get voicemail (i hope).

then it will be all over. unless you want to text/call a few more times for good measure. then it is creep out stalker time. but what have you got to lose?

Interesting. I've actually been texting exclusively for about a year. I like texting because it's less intrusive and she can reply whenever she wants to. I have found that people never check their voice mail and may return a call if they know the number.

I like to send a text a couple of hours after getting a number. Just something short and clever to make her smile, keep in touch with her and let her know I like her. I have found that if I call and leave a voice mail she likely won't even check it. But, she will read a text. She may not reply, but at least I can tell her what I wanted to say and know she'll read it.

you're right. better text. i don't see it working out with calling.

No offense, really...but, that concept makes NO sense to me whatsoever!!!! How do you actually "know" she is not checking/listening to her voicemails? How do you actually "know" she is reading your text messages?

My perception of that is if you have a way to know she will spend time "reading" something vs. actually "listening" to you...you may want to rethink your "exclusive" and "non-intrusive" relationship.

Sounds more "obtusive" to me.

Text is such a load of crap that I'm not even going to go into all of the details. I've been on the internet since the basenet days before html and I have a growing distaste for texting/chatting. Maybe someday everyone else will get tired of it too.

As for the nervousness, seriously, get over it. "You do the thing that you're scared s***less off and get the courage afterwords" --George Clooney, Three Kings. If you can't handle a simple conversation on the phone then why did you give your number to begin with, or why did you take a number?

As for my etiquette as far as calling goes, I call and usually don't leave a message the first time. I may call back and leave ONE message and then I'm done, ball's in your court and if you don't call me back then I'm not going to waste my time trying to get your attention, sorry. I'm getting too old for all the stupid "waiting 3 days" BS games that everyone wants to play. If I like you, I call you, and if you don't answer you're lucky to get a message, otherwise I'm looking for another. Just the way I am, wasted too much time already to be sitting around waiting on a phone call.

And if you are going to call, call. Don't send me a bunch of stupid text messages. I have to pay extra for them and don't have them on my plan for a reason, namely, that I don't like them.


,the gecko