What do you do when family members try to set you up?

Here goes... I'm going to my Mom's for the holiday weekend. My step father called to inform me that he found out that my Mom has invited a "friend from church" to come over to spend the 4th with us because he doesn't have any family in the area. Knowing my Mom, he's near my age, single and Catholic and she brow beat him into coming over... it's just her style!

I talked to my Mom last night and she said that she was "just trying to help". She wants me to make sure I bring a couple of nice outfits to make sure I look "presentable". Oh, please! Shoot me now! She also mentioned that she found a nice Catholic dating site. Then later in the conversation asked if I had any "nice" pictures scanned and would I send them to her. If not, she was sure we'd be taking some "family pictures" this weekend.

My main problem is that my Mom is trying to fix me up. Secondly, I'm not a practicing Catholic anymore and haven't been in over a decade, nor am I interested in going back to Catholicism. Third, she never bothered to ask if I might be seeing someone.

I love my Mom, but this is the one place in my life I don't want her help or assistance in. Not to mention that I am enjoying being single!

Has anyone else had this happen? What did you do? How did you handle it? Do I jsut grin and bear it?

I hear Jewish mothers are worse...

Just say no...

Grin and bear it. I don't think she'll stop. If nothing else, maybe he will be a new friend. Hmmmmm, here's a thought, if he agree's to be your fake bf, maybe she'll get off your back. Allthough, I don't realy think this will work.

So should i call your mom and tell i can't make it?

You could always tell your mom she is overstepping her boundaries and that you are a big girl and Catholic men are a huge turn off. Tell her you are into Buddhism. That should get a rise out of her.

My parents have never done that, and they know better than to attempt it. They know it ain't their place to interfere in my personal life like that, well-intended or not. If my mother had ever tried doing something like that to me, I would've suddenly had to work that weekend/got sick/got invited elsewhere/etc.

Maybe he has another friend you might like?

I'm an Orphan

This happens to me all the time. My mom is always trying to set me up with someone in some form or another. It's just too bad that her choices and standards for mates for me are suspect at best. And that goes doubly for the fact it's just plain nosy on her part.

I DID manage to shut her up for good by doing this- I contacted a friend of mine (a rather threatening-looking-but-harmless non-gay buff biker type, complete with dualie beard) and arranged for us to have lunch with my mom. He even showed up wearing S&M garb too.

We ended up playing out a whole improv thing where we went about saying how we were "in love" and that we were gonna go move out to San Francisco together and stuff. The food she was chewing literally fell out of her mouth when she sat there aghast at one point.

Needless to say, she never bothered to set me up again after that. In fact, she flat-out refuses to do so now for fear of what I just might do.

So you should definitely "bring home" someone your parents would simply freak them out. That ought shut them up.

I usually don't even show up.....If you do that she might get the hint to stop. Mine did.

Send her a link to this post ^_^

I've done that already. Except, I told her I was Wiccan. She feigned a fainting spell. (She's a big time drama queen)

It was a good chuckle for me though to see the look on her face.

People treat you the "way" you allow them.......

Thankfully never in THAT position , of my MOTHER tryin to set me up ,BUT my siblings, AND all my friends ??? ??? please GOD shoot me now
They have FINALLY left me alone a swell /...
goodluck this weekend ... just be yourself , and let the chips fall where they may .. might even turn out to be a nice day ?? ( or not )

If it wasn't for the fact that I promised to come down this weekend and have my house being fumigated, I'd not go at all.

And, I've tried the "worse possible boyfriend" type before. Didn't work.

You've obviously never met my Mother!

She could make the Pope become a Pagan!

OK...it's time to break out the big guns...go to The Salvation Army or Goodwill store...get yourself the CUH-RAAAAAAAZIEST outfit that you can afford...show up at yer Mom's with hooker make-up & funky hair... Say to her "I'm heeeeeeeeere! Where's my date?" It's a win/win/win... Yer Mom will stop fixing your crazy azz up for fear of being embarrassed again...if the guy's a dork, he won't want to go out with you...BUT, if he's a Prince with a sense of humor, ya'll can laugh about it & ride off into the sunset together... I DARE ya' to do it!

You could walk in with a rented lesbian lover for the day. Introduce it that way.

I do like phuque's idea though.