thnx and no there not any nude ones. i hope? lmao

lex, let me just say, i have been treated like **** so many times, along
comes this really hot guy, says all the right things, pumps me up, my
feet dont even touch the ground, the SPLAT not only are my feet on the
ground, but so is my heart. i was so often told that i didnt deserve
good, that when i got it, i was just floored. then, he floored me.

SC, that's when you have to be the MOST careful!

well said on the post lex.

Simply, you must be lookinginall the wrong places, I am right here.
Seriously, if that guy did what he did too you, he is not woth the
effort, hr is just a jerk.You need too put him behind you and go on with
your life.

suppose the jerk label fits after all

i thought i was being careful. now, either too careful or too gullible.

why does the guy have to be a jerk just because he isnt interested?

doesnt have to be a jerk, does he
what i felt, he didnt, doesnt make him a jerk.
i appreciate all of you taking the time to respond. thank you

May I just say, he didn't MAKE you feel anything...you did.

And what you feel now, YOU choose to.

Your inner dialogue keeps you 'stuck'...no-one else.

ok, i was jsut wondering because it seemed liek everyone was callign him
a jerk. i thought maybe i could of missed somethign. just thought i
would ask, lol

nude? damn!!!! where, hawk? where? lmao!!!

let me see them

lmao !!!!!!!!!!!!!

jess...you are totally right, i choose my feelings, i am where i am now
because of me, not him. my question was only, how to stop what i am
feeling.

Thank you, seahawk --

No, the guy doesn't necessarily have to be a jerk -- he might just be
one of these oblivious types, or self-absorbed, or maybe he's not a good
communicator. There are a lot of possible scenarios, but I'm not really
concerned about his situation, because he's not here asking for our
opinions!

SC -- I would just ask you to keep in mind that this one guy is not
necessarily a template for the next one, or two, or three, etc., that
you will meet. It does pay to be careful, though, and never rush into
anything.

I know how it is when you WANT to believe someone is who and what you
think they are. When you can actually convince yourself, even before
all the evidence is in. It's SO easy to fall into that!

But when you're wrong, it can be such a catastrophe....

I like to go back to the idea of deferred gratification. If it's real,
it's worth putting a little (or a lot) more time (and more certainty)
into it. Otherwise, we're back to hoping and guessing again....

cheers lex!!!!!!

Turn your thoughts around.

Are you worthwhile?

Are you a good, and valuable person within your society?

Do you have close friends?

Are you of value to them?

If you answer yes to those questions, then you are lovable.

To sit within a place of unrequited love, is to stand still.

Thank this man, thank him for showing you the qualities that you fell in
love with, for now you will recognise them, in any future men you meet,
and will not settle for less.

If you need closure....write him a letter, thanking him for the
wonderful emotions he invoked in you.

Then let him, it, go.

Freeze the letter...leave it in your freezer for six months.

Then when you can't remember what it is, put it in the bin.

Move on.

Close this, it is done, gone, been and finished.

Why do you carry so much, when it has only bent your back, and kept you
stagnant?

Wouldn't you put down a bag of cement when it got too heavy?

You seem to be in love with a dream, not the way it truly
is, baby! I like to think my worth isn't dictated by the people around
me. When you see all that love, going to someone/something, that is
imagination. You have a good support system, here; take advatage of it.
IT'S FREE!!!

thankx jess...excellent advice. and i do, when i am not wallowing as i
am tonite, thank him. he showed me that i was a person that someone
could love, it just wasnt him. he was never mean, always very kind, even
when he broke it off. he said he was sorry, that it was him.