I've done a lot of observing (as well as participating) here on Mingle and in my life.

I've seen and read many different reasons why people are single. Some aren't looking at all. Some are very picky and have preferences that make finding "the one" a daunting task. Some have bad luck or poor timing. Some are too eager. Some are too passive. The common denominator is that most of these people have an awareness of the reasons they are single.

There is another type of person. They do not understand why they are single. It's the other person's fault or they just keep meeting the wrong girl/guy. Maybe the next one will be more honest/faithful/loving or whatever. They are usually unaware of the image they are projecting.

I wonder if they've ever taken a personal inventory and if it would help if they did? I believe it would. Maybe they would see what we all do.

i did the inventory and found out i dont fit on anybodys list.

my inventory needs to be restocked

At least you have self-awareness. That is more than many.

Oh? I thought the pantry was full these days...

I doubt it, Mitch. That would mean they'd have to take some responsibility and hold themselves with some personal accountability for their past failed relationships, and they'd have to admit that the common denominator is themselves. Most are not willing to do that. It's too easy to blame the other party.

I know, but it is still worthwhile to put the message out. Maybe one person will take heed.

the inventory is too far from the pantry

I even got turned down by eWhoremany!

Pffft! Have you seen any of the spelling and grammar threads?

for those in question, i'm not perfect with this by anymeans, but i will say what has helped me with the damage that was done, and recouped me to move forward was Anthony robbins "Unlimited power", and "Awaken the giant from within"
and the best book of the twentieth century, and by far the most valuable, i'd be far far richer as well, in all areas, an older book by modern day standards "How to win friends and influence people".....now we do some of these methods everyday, but there's so many fine points, and if one were to use this knowledge constantly, they would be able to work through situations that they thought impossible before. it works! and i'll swear to it, and i'm a better person(far from perfect) for it!

audio books are the best, for you can listen in the car and not be detained like you are when reading.

heyyyyy!! i've conceded that it is, in fact 'y'all' and not 'ya'll'. doesn't mean i'll ever use it that way, but i accept that you were right and i was wrong.

hmmm I just took a personal inventory and this is what I found:

3 obsessive compulsive disorders
6 depressions
2 chauvenistic tendencies
4 paranoias
1 antisocial behavior (I better stock up)
3 anxieties
7 dependencies
and 4 passive-aggressions

There is a difference. The people that do not spell correctly or use proper grammar and punctuation do not listen because they do not care. Virtually all of the people from the unaware group hope to find someone. They do care. They have blinders on. Maybe someone can yank 'em off.

....and a partridge in a pear tree....

Are you heavily armed?

Please let me know if you're ever passing through this area.

My inventory has been reconciled.