Since I sauntered into this community, I have learned some new but basic facts
about our society (that is what we're supposed to be, isn't it?) that I feel the need to share.
I remember how, as a Brooklyn Resident, I used to say that if you want to get an understanding of contemporary society, look at its drivers. Some of us enter a powerful, personal world of our own when we get behind the wheel-
It becomes all about us, where WE have to go and what WE have to do. And then there are some of us that refuse to yield and feel entitled to move forward
(after all isn't that what driving is all about)
Here at the Mingle site, I marvel at how we think when we don our profiles like a cloak, and step out into the night of the site... all of us trolling as a clandestine fisher-person looking for the catch!
For some of us it is a diversion, from what we may or may not be doing. I wonder how someone working behind a desk can actually have the presence of mind to be intimate and handle their workload at the same time...
For others (of us) it is a constant form of entertainment- it can be done while watching your favorite drama, or breastfeeding the kid. It comes on as soon as you come in the house and you troll through the night, receiving
letters and Ims from others telling you you seem nice enough to want to meet, and you delete them without the slightest second thought- that they may have a positive effect on your life...
But whose looking for positive effect? In our world of instant gratification,
We digest our kudos, these come-ons, and we feel full.
I also learned that being someones neighbor doesn't amount to a hill of beans on the web...I cant get a word out of those living closest to me, and I wonder how those of you that are my neighbors are going to respond when I walk up to them in public and re-introduce myself, knowing that I was one of those profiles they said ewww to?
What an education this has been- to all of those wonderful women I am getting to know from all around the world, thank you for taking a chance on me and giving me some of your time.
Ive learned time is all I really have to offer anybody.

have something good for you-

I wanted to address this part specificially, because this has been my EXACT experience as well -- anyone within 897,000 miles of me apparently cannot detect my presence on this site -- I assume this is some sort of eSafety Filter, implemented for whatever reason....when the only people who can see you are too far away to ever do anything about it, the potential for anything "bad" to happen is virtually nil....!!

Nice post...but I don't look at most of us as wearing the cloak of our profiles...trolling in the night... Perhaps I misunderstood your intention...but I have taken the time to get to know people...in cyber & in person...& I must say that the majority of the souls I have met, are exactly how they portray themselves on the screen... Just sayin'...

Of course it's a cloak. But you put yourself out there with ur band and what not so at least we get to see the real you. And it's delicious, btw.

Alot of people feel secure behind the pc, they can make themselves out to be anything they want because most of the time they know they'll never meet those they are chatting with. You can't take it personally, how can you? Everyone's a stranger. Meeting up would take the allure out of internet chatting. They get nervous at the thought of it, most do. To me meeting is the most exciting part of the whole experience. Then we can see the real deal.

Good thing I'm not the "nervous" kind, huh? I enjoy our Texas Mingle Meets...too bad everyone else is so far away...

Hey I'm me

Take it or leave it!

I concur...

(Laughin like all get out)

My sentiments, exactly!

Speak for YOURSELF Habit. Excuse the pun, but it's a bad habit to make such assumptions about others.

"To me meeting is the most exciting part of the whole experience. Then we can see the real deal."


yes that would be the intention...

I only assume that my feelings are valid.
Thanks....

yes that would be the intention...



There is an East Coast Mingle Meet being planned (see thread in General)...perhaps now is as good a time as any to get out &
mingle...

Hopefully you do not have to assume about yourself. It is a very good thing if you genuinely know yourself. But hey, what do I know?

There is an East Coast Mingle Meet being planned (see thread in General)...perhaps now is as good a time as any to get out &
mingle...


sounds good! thanx... I'm actually working on a coupla social things now. Im working on a Burlesque number (boylesque), and Im a prize for an upcomming event this Monday.

Well you know what assuming does and it's not usually pretty.. That being said, I take it after only 46 post you really haven't had the opportunity to get to know a lot of people... It's doublful you had a chance to meet many people from here... Until you do you're just assuming which I can tell you from meeting quite a few people from here so far you are "wrong".. What I think you're basing this assumption on is the lack of response by "women", which really has to do with you and whether they think they are interested... Just b/c someone isn't doesn't mean they're putting up a facade, it's simply that they are not interested... There will be those that are interested, are those going to be the only real ones? When they live 897,000 miles away that will present a new issue and the only reason a "real" person cannot be found...

You have to understand, Habit...this is a pretty tight-knit community & we're not real fond of generalizing, blanket statements. Of all the sites I've been on...this is the most compassionate. However, just in the brief private convos you & I have had...I can definitely see a good soul in you...might be our Native American connection... Perhaps, if you just sat back & looked at all the interpersonal connections we've all made here...you might just change your mind about the "cloaked trolling" concept...

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<wears an invisable cloak

I agree with one thing, the people interested live too far away. But I assure you, this is not a cloak...it is actually a major part of my life (serial killers if didn't get that yet). I'm forthright and blunt, and it pisses people off. Well, can't please everyone...

I'm getting a bit sick of being the token aussie....

I thought I saw a kiwi the other day....but he too disappeared in a cloud of mist.....





Then again who would want a heap of my type running around these forums?