Snuggling is one of the most enjoyable things any couple can do. It brings you two very close, and tells you a great deal about the relationship. Bad snuggling can ruin a relationship too.

First and foremost, you have to try to be a good snuggler. It should come naturally to you. If you've ever been held by your mother or father, or anyone for that matter, you should have the basic idea how to snuggle.


1.Sit on the same couch/sofa/love seat. You can't snuggle long distances, so get close.
2.Move your hand closer to his/hers. Holding hands is a great start to snuggling.
3.Nuzzle your way closer to your interest. Throughout the movie/TV show get a little bit closer. Have your shoulder press against your potential snuggelee. Let them know you are not only ok with touching, but you want him/her to.
4.Hopefully they've caught on a bit. If you're a girl, move your shoulder on top of his. This lets his arm pass behind your back so he can put his arm around you.
5.If he is still not catching on, put your head on his shoulder. This is slightly less affectionate, but lets him feel more like the "man." Hopefully he'll put his hand on your back, or side. In this instance, it also works to put your head on his shoulder.
6.Snuggle away.


Snuggling is something that happens a few dates into the relationship. Perhaps on the 1st or 2nd or even the 3rd, you might want to stick with holding his hand.
•Snuggling is not gender role-defined. Either member can initiate the snuggling.
•Little things you can do, to tease or just to add a little something extra to your snuggling. You may not be able to do some of these. It depends on how you've ended up snuggling. Maybe his head is on your lap, maybe you are both sitting with his arm around you. Not all of these will work for every position. Try them out and see what works for you:
◦Play with his hair.
◦Kiss him/her.
◦Run your hands down his neck.
◦Rub his back. Give him a little massage. Light circles also are fun.
◦Pull each other closer. Give each other a little squeeze.
◦Touch his stomach or chest.
◦Trace your hands along his waist line. (Be careful with this one. If you hands go near his hip line, you may just end up turning him on. If you want to do that then use this at will, otherwise watch your hands a little.)
◦If you liked the above, push up his shirt a little bit and continue lightly grazing his skin with your fingers.
◦If his arm is at his side, slide your arm under his and hold his forearm or hand.
◦Simply leaning is a great way to start snuggling. Lay your head on his shoulder if he can hold the weight comfortably.
•Enjoy the moment--don't rush through it.
•If you're at a scary movie with your boyfriend, act scared. (He'll most likely want to hold you and protect you to make you feel more safe.)
•Involve your legs in the snuggle from time to time, especially if you feel confident about their touchability and if you're wearing something that exposes them like a dress or shorts.
◦Always keep your legs as close to him or her as possible if you want them to be touched. Conversely, if you'd prefer your legs not get involved with anything, angle them away enough that it would be uncomfortable for their hand to be there.
◦When sitting, try bringing your feet up under you and lean your legs onto his lap (this can be fairly forward because he'll have little option than to rest his hand on your legs or put his arm around you).
◦It's even okay to drape one leg over his if your relationship is solid enough that you expect his attention.
◦When wearing a skirt or dress, try pulling it back a little to expose enough knee for his hand. Sometimes this is as good as saying, "Please put your hand right here."
◦When holding her hand, rest it in your lap so that her fingers are touching your leg.
◦If you are lying down together, rest your head on his/her chest, or put your arms around him/her,



Warnings: If you don't think you're ready to try all (or some) of this, don't worry. Wait until you're ready - then you can really enjoy it all.
•Don't push your way in there. Snuggling requires you to have already broken the touch barrier. If you can't hold hands, snuggling is probably not going to happen.
•Don't hurt the guy. And don't let him hurt you. Everyone has their squeeze limit.
•Know your limits. Snuggling is very intimate and often leads to other more physical things. Don't let him push you to where you aren't comfortable, and don't push him to where he isn't comfortable.
•Only apply this to a guy or girl you actually like. NEVER toy with a guy's feelings, especially if it's because you want to make someone else jealous. It never ends well.


HAVE A GREAT SNUGGLING WKND'S TO ALL WITH A WONDERFUL FATHER'S DAY OF LOVE, LIFE, PEACE AND HAPPINESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had no idea people needed a step by step plan on how to cuddle.

I can't believe somebody felt the need to actually write this down!

So does Common Sense, but I digress.

Yes, I realize that. I just thought that was sort of a built in know how kind of thing.

Nice primer but yes seems like common sense on most. Hey it's the thought that counts though thanks for sharing.

B

so you're saying it's okay to fake it?

I didn't know you were not allowed to snuggle on the 1st date?

Wow, hard to believe I have been a bad snuggler all this time.. I think I am ready now. Ok ladies, what do you say?

Have a wonderful Father's Day Frank and thanks for posting your advise on snuggling. For those that say it comes naturally, some are brought up to never touch or express feelings or emotions. They might need some help.

I have gone through many profiles right here on Mingle2. One of the interest, as stated in some of the profiles of women, is snuggling.

It made me wonder, why snuggling is an interest for some of these folks. Of late, i came across an article on the net about the Power Of Touching. Let me share a few lines from what i had learnt.....

"The Power of Touch" :

"Touch Is Important

The touch of someone's hand, the closeness of an embrace, and the connected feeling of personal contact signify caring and comforting. Feelings of security, safety, and easiness are amplified along with other good feelings evoked by the power of touch.

The act of touching:

* builds closeness
* fosters communication
* nurtures intimacy

Touching gives a person the sense of being cared about and cared for. Being touched or snuggled makes a person psychologically feel worthy and physically feel soothed."

This piece of info may not be new to most of the folks here, but this was what i had just learned and realised.

DOH

ok i think i have it NOW.