I was seeing someone for a little over a year and everything was great. He would come over, hangout, we laugh, other things, and that's how I liked it. But then he tells me that he can't see me anymore because... I treat him well, we get along, and he likes me. Am I missing something here?! He would tell me how I was the only woman who could please him, how he felt he tell me anything and how I wouldn't judge him, and how well my children are well grounded. If i'm so great.... Why did he ruin a good thing? I keep going back to was it something I did? and if he truly felt that he could talk to me about anything... Why didn't he?

Bipolar..is all I can think of. Better off without him. Keep your head up... is all I can advise ya!
Take care,
Gracy

It may be that he's always been mistreated or abused, has low self-esteem, doesn't feel he deserves a good thing, and is suspicious, since good things aren't supposed to happen to him, like, it should explode in his face at any given moment.
It's SO NOT ABOUT YOU!!!

Cold feet to commit a serious relationship is all I can think of. :

scared

fear of contentment ,SKPCG nailed it.

This sounds like part of the reason. Only him and his inter most feeling knows the truth.

That's funny, a guy just wants to be friends and we have mental issues or are afraid...a lady wants to just be friends, and it is normal.

He doesn't want to lose the friendship more than likely, inevitably if a relationship takes a downward spiral the friendship is going to go with it. I've lost plenty of possibly good friends because of this, which is why I'm not seeking a relationship anymore.

This really has me dumbfounded. This has happened to me a couple times, but I didn't realize that guys also do that to women. He has got to be screwed up in the head a little bit. At least you gotta tell yourself that.

i know a bi polar person. its very normal for bi polar people to only see things one sided. just thought i would mention this lol

he's a ree-ree.......
marry me instead !

I had this happen recently. sometimes people may not know what they want or are going through things in their lives and it may be over whelming. It could be he got scared as well. there or many reasons...but if you try to figure out why...then you will drive yourself crazy. it takes time and going through a grieving process....but try to accept it as it is.

Doubtful, pretty sure he just wants to be friends....

My first reaction was that hes totally seeing someone else. Someone hes interested in for different reasons, or feels he can be closer with, or he thinks is better. Weather it has anything to do with you or not.

I agree with this. Only because I use to do the same thing.

So does this mean when women say "I just want to be friends" that they are either scared or suffer from bipolar?

I think guys are afraid of being in a "relationship". Little do they realize that the relationship starts when they save my number into their phone. It's the kind of relationship, dummy. Were you open to the type you two were having? Did he think you wanted more because of your kids/age/job/economy whatever? After a while (6 mos, year) people want to define their situation and that definition usually causes my breakups. I think it's a good thing to define 'em because you'll get hurt more further down the road if your on different roads. Move on and look for another guy - I keep trying!

dammit gimme your #,i'll save it in my phone!.....geez!

Yeah, sure. It's what kind of a relationship do you want? Friends, Best friends, lovers, marriage etc. We all want interaction with other people - that's called a relationship!

all the women seem to be ignoring your posts!



i'd bank on either: he's not as interested in you as you've been led to believe; that you're reading more into it than what he's actually been saying; there's someone else.