Lets go to some car shows & hit some bars

I'm not asking for details.

Good luck to you.

I work on myself, doing things that make me feel fullfilled, starting with pampering, like bubbles baths, buying something new, reading some inspirational materials. I talk to someone who has something to offer, someone who loves me.

And then I reach out to another person, and try to help them in whichever way I can.

you know what they say when you can't get over someone..

get under someone new

You asked why we broke up, I told you, and you asked again.

this was your answer to lilith and I agree it was a broad brushed effort to not discuss the issues that broke you two up.
you said"I was putting in a lot more effort than he was. Even after confronting him about it things didn't change. Maybe because he just wasn't capable of more."
is "effort" or "it" a clue word for love or money or sex or what was your problem with him.?You know, and wanted help dealing with it or you would not have brought it up, and now that you sparked a response ...you do not want to let us in on his shortcomings..whatever they were seems to be your problem and he isn't crawling back so live well and find someone who ( if not yourself ) can meet your demands..
problem solved....what's next?

After over 9000 posts here , haven't you figured out that we want the details before we give advice..

If you dont like the question, you dont have to answer. I gave as much info as I felt comfortable in a public forum. I usually dont share my personal life here at all but this break up is getting the better of me and I was looking for some support. We both have short comings but I'm not going to put them on blast here.

This is WHY I dont share my personal life here, and I will keep it to myself in the future.

i never dated her, but i have one woman who happens to be my first love, and at the moment i hate how my brain wants to think of her, easiest thing for me to do is make it stop thinking that. its hard sometimes, but i manage. for your case myka, i agree you should try to be productive like the other posts suggested, it can suck no doubt, but hopefully time will help make this unnerving feeling you have wane.

you simpley move on

oh, and go to the adult book store then hit the drug store on the way home for lotion and klenex

(((Myka))) you have to decide if those things that made you break up with him are things you can get past... You broke up with him for reasons that are valid and important to "you"... If you can look past those things and accept him for who he is then you may want to try to work it out... If you cannot then you take time and get through it.. It will take time, when you really care about someone you don't stop caring just b/c you break up... If being friends is too hard right now then maybe you take a break from talking until it's easier...

If it is "not working" you need to check out what you want, hang out with family and friends. Move on....... The incomplete part maybe what your looking for. But as i have found. Make your self happy, dont rely on others to make it for you.

I would focus on making my life compleat. I don't want to depend on another person to "compleat" me. I have no missing parts.

drink too much, get in a lot of bar fights, crash my car into telephone poles

you wrote and i quote "If you dont like the question, you dont have to answer. I gave as much info as I felt comfortable in a public forum. I usually dont share my personal life here at all but this break up is getting the better of me and I was looking for some support. We both have short comings but I'm not going to put them on blast here.
This is WHY I dont share my personal life here, and I will keep it to myself in the future."

You,in your own profile try to impress all with your high I.Q...yet with all that brain ,you can not see the light....then I suggest all you are here for is to state your feelings and beg for support...How can we help you ? Smart men would not go near you at this point in your life and you ask what to do....Stay out of the dating world till you find out who you are and what your needs are.
In your profile you want older guys..You are 27 years young and knocking younger guys won't help either.You show that despite having a brain ,you still want to generalize and throw the blame on younger men.Has it occurred to you that you may be the problem.
By the way ,I never said I did not like the question..If you do not want to share your personal life ,then you are in the wrong place...not me...I have the right and the knowledge to use my keyboard and post whatever comments I want so long as I do not attack you or use vulgarity..

There is a difference between giving specifics and explain reasons. I did not ask for details of your personal life, but rather what the issues were on your end that you felt you had to end the relationship.

I'm thinking you've read these threads long enough to know we can't offer anything with nothing to go on.

I hope you feel better soon. It might be beneficial to you to discuss this private with someone you know and respect.