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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Tue 06/09/09 09:00 PM
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arrghh, double post
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Tue 06/09/09 09:01 PM
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I'm saying for instance, you merge a family but b/c of that you had your own bills from your own family... So you still have those bills, perhaps child support and or alimony.... I'm just saying b/c I make more I'm not 1) giving up my lifestyle to pay more than another person 2) I do not expect that person to either 3) I give my sons money and pay for lots of things for them and they're over 21, I don't want that to change or anyone to expec that it should b/c I make more money than they do... Good point Atlantis... I'm a meanie...  No you are not..  I'm just saying, that whoever want to have you as a partner, must face the fact that you are already paying a lot of stuff. So having you as a lover, also comes with a price, but I'm not saying this in a negative way, if someone truly loves you, he wouldn't mind or see this as an obstacle. Unless of course, the person really makes no money whatsoever. I mean, if someone owns or already rents a space for himself and meanwhile you are paying for your children already, he doesn't really pay more than he paid already having you around. I know you weren't saying that hun, it was inferred above.. I have always paid my own way and my sons ways and all the extras they needed.. You put it nicely... My stance is that b/c I make more doesn't mean should pay more when I have high bills to support my sons which I do not expect help with not even from their father... That's why it's crucial to select a mate who has enough braincells to understand your situation and love you enough to accept you the way you are. 
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I'm saying for instance, you merge a family but b/c of that you had your own bills from your own family... So you still have those bills, perhaps child support and or alimony.... I'm just saying b/c I make more I'm not 1) giving up my lifestyle to pay more than another person 2) I do not expect that person to either 3) I give my sons money and pay for lots of things for them and they're over 21, I don't want that to change or anyone to expec that it should b/c I make more money than they do... That's why it's crucial to select a mate who has enough braincells to understand your situation and love you enough to accept you the way you are. Good point Atlantis... I'm a meanie... No you are not.. I'm just saying, that whoever want to have you as a partner, must face the fact that you are already paying a lot of stuff. So having you as a lover, also comes with a price, but I'm not saying this in a negative way, if someone truly loves you, he wouldn't mind or see this as an obstacle. Unless of course, the person really makes no money whatsoever. I mean, if someone owns or already rents a space for himself and meanwhile you are paying for your children already, he doesn't really pay more than he paid already having you around. I know you weren't saying that hun, it was inferred above.. I have always paid my own way and my sons ways and all the extras they needed.. You put it nicely... My stance is that b/c I make more doesn't mean should pay more when I have high bills to support my sons which I do not expect help with not even from their father... That comes down to your partner understanding the burden you carry and accepting the idea, that you are have a lot of things to pay for and can't afford to split money out of it. So what each case with everyone is different, there is no universal idea, which fits everyone. Oh I'd split it, I just don't think the $$ on my paycheck should automatically mandate that I pay more which was what started the calling me mean above.... |
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my fault, you quoted the wrong piece of the quotations, but anyway as I said there is no universal formula.
 Meanwhile i checked your profile. 
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my fault, you quoted the wrong piece of the quotations, but anyway as I said there is no universal formula. Meanwhile i checked your profile. Oh ooopsie...  Is that good?  
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It depends, if you split things down the middle and one person ends up with nothing left after the bills and the other has a spare thousand, then things arent really working fairly. If you are living with someone you should be loving them too, and it really shouldnt matter who spends how much, just as long as nobody is being taken for granted. Very good point Dan..... |
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