I lift and carry paint buckets for living. :-)

Whether you're slim or overweight, its a genetic thing. If weight runs in your family tree, then chances are good you're going to have a few extra pounds.

Sometimes we tend to be too concerned about appearances and not enough on a person's character.

Just my 2 cents. :-)

Rick

Similar situation with my little son, he couldnt excercize because of his heart problem, could only do very minimal activity without having a problem which made him gain weight through lack of excercize.

Also, hes had to take certain medications which have an expected weight gain of possible 40 pounds with, and very typical.

Hes only 10. I for sure feel people need a soft touch with him, and for sure should never make fun. I dont think he needs to walk around believeing.. "allright, im fat I deserve hate, I should excercize".

Its very hard, and makes him unhappy, but theres not alot he has been able to do.

Even at an adult age noone should expect, or feel good about ridicule.

And when i said i didnt mind being called fat chick, i didnt mean I like it, I just meant that Im not going to let some ignorant fool upset me.

You mean like "Eeeww! Look at that fatty mcfat fat over there. I just want punch him in the face."? IDK, maybe it's all the steroids and other drugs and "enhancenets".

Now we know you're NOT a girly man....!!!

hahahaha thats me they are pointing at

or maybe they are trying to piss them off on purpose so they'll work harder to lose the weight?

knew a girl, neither glamorous nor that other word that i try never to use (quite aware of the karma truck). she was called 'fat b*&$%' by family as a teen and never got over it.

i think people that fall short of societal expectations already know it.certainly there are better ways to help than ridicule.

I'm sorry to hear about your son's heart. You're right. He doesn't deserve to live with, "I'm fat, I deserve hate, I should exercise". He should be accepted for himself.

make a point of never going nr a gym i like my belly just the way it is thanks

That's not going to work. People have to lose weight for themselves. Not because someone is making fun of them or trying to piss them off.

Staying fit is a lifestyle choice. You have to want to change in order for it to work. Stay away from the fad diets. Eat in moderation and not overdo on high fat foods.

Sometimes age works against you. The older you are, the harder it is to remove the extra pounds. The best thing is to just keep it under control so the weight doesn't get out of hand.

Rick :-)

It is not a lifestyle choice for all people. Some people are physically unable to exercise. Some people exercise regularly and never become thin. Age and hereditary are factors too.

Alright....I will be the Devil's advocate here....

Maybe everyone thinks that it is okay if someone just lets themselves go to pot and we should all just accept them as they are. I disagree. No different than if someone refuses to bathe...maybe you guys would put up with it...I wouldn't.

Point of reference..."Fat Joe" a guy I used to work with would chug 2 family sized cans of Spaghetti-O's for breakfast everyday. When I would rag on him..he said "Do I look like I care?"

I asked.."don't you wanna live long enough to see your daughter graduate or walk her down the isle to get married?"

His response.."I don't care"....

I told him right there that he was a fat worthless piece of sh*t..he said "I know"

My point is..we as a society ain't doing anyone any favors by condoning and rationalizing obesity or lazyness.

This is a general observation and is in no way intended to point at anyone on this site.

Wasn't this thread about overweight people being made fun of at the gym? What's the point in being rude to those who are trying to make changes?

i told a whole group of guys off at a packed gym once. two of my friends and i had made a pact to work our asses off and lose the weight.

they said things that i wouldn't repeat but when the manager came over to find out what all the ruckus was about i flat out told him what they said loud enough for everyone to hear made it clear that we wanted our money back and would never step foot in their bull**** elitist gym again.

surprisingly, they refunded us completely.

i havent stepped foot into another gym again.

i think with 4 pages worth of stuff onthis thread you forgot the point.

i've had friends and fgmily do the same thing. what you don't understand is 9 times out of 10 its a compulsive addiction.

sometimes i find myself eating... and not remember when i started or why. i may not be hungry but my brain will tell me "shouldn't you be chewing something right now?" trust me i hate it and myself for it.

but there are things that can be done. and when people get made fun of when they are trying and making a conscious effort to change their health, then thats just negative and deconstructive to their fragile self esteem.

like i said, i never stepped into a gym again. i never want another human being seeing me work out. it scarred the hell out of me. you may not understand that but i had to find other ways to work out because i was too embarrassed about my body to do it in public.

so what you did to your friend is your business. but if he were in a gym and you said something like that out of nowhere i'd have hoped he kicked the crap out of you because you'd deserve it.

Wasn't this thread about overweight people being made fun of at the gym? What's the point in being rude to those who are trying to make changes?


The way I was reading the responses was that it is apparently okay to be unhealthy. But, I do get your point. I can definitely say that in the 22 years my father ran his gym/karate' school I never once heard a belittling comment made to anyone.

Thanks for noticing. Although even as a big person, I sometimes snicker to myself when someone comes in wearing something ridiculous or farts his way across a mile on the treadmill. It's just funny!

I will only belong to a gym where I feel comfortable working out without a bunch of elitist nonsense. People should be encouraged to make better of themselves, not belittled.

We actually have a women only fitness center out here that caters specifically to the big ladies. That in it'self is an excellent idea. To an extent, one should feel (socially) comfortable when working out. However, working out has nothing to do with being comfortable. The fact that all the instructors are, well...really big.... sets a bad example. A tangible reminder of the goals in mind should be present.

Don't get me wrong....I have loved more than one plush woman. They are great, beautiful and fun in the sack. Would I like to see them healthier? yeah.

When I see my lover going back for seconds of deep fried everything with an extra dessert instead of a salad or some light seafood...I feel I would be remiss if I didn't say something...(not talking about ridiculing)