Is there a term besides obsession or infatuation for when it feels like you're in love, you get the butterflies, you're listening to "I want to know what love is" by Foreigner, but you don't even know the person well and are just basing this on a very strong attraction to the person's looks? I know it's common for this to happen to guys...they like a girl's looks and want her to be "the one" even though she isn't even probably dateable for them, but what is this, and is it healthy?

Delusional self deprecating fantasies, with a side of secured insecurity?

Lust

Lust...false idea of love. Remember, love is truly difficult if not impossible to find. Too many failures and not enough safety nets...

I was under the impression lust was based on a sexual attraction. What I'm describing is kind of what Steve Urkel felt for Laura in Family Matters.

Yea. What gumby said.

Its called lust.

When you're that young it's called puppy love, when you're older it's lust.

fatal attraction?

Maybe a "crush" is another word for it too.

Either way, I'm glad I'm over this. After being on dates with a few women I actually connected with, I was able to distinguish actually liking someone from puppy love/lust whatever it is.

It's called being in heat!

its called a 'hot carl'

Probably a crush, since you mention Steve Urkel...

I agree, crush is a good, simple word for it. But either way, I'm glad I'm over it. While the delusional "highs" feel good and you may as well be in love, it's probably the same feeling, it isn't real.

that's right, now boil a bunny!

Being horny?

You had it right to begin with. It's infatuation. Not based in reality but your perception of what you want reality to be. Not very realistic or healthy. Focus on you, being a stronger and better person and you will attract those kinds of people. Good luck.

There is a Jungian concept that basically says people are on specific frequencies, for lack of a better word. You may find "THE ONE" across the room at a party or a club(for example) and have never met before and not even have seen his/her face yet - something about the frequency transmitted. Your buddy standing next to you could be completely oblivious to the person you are highly in tune with while you wonder why he doesn't "get it" about that person's attraction because it's not the same for him.

It's been a long time since I read that stuff in college so I'm sure I've forgotten some important pieces of the concept but you might explore it...

Or you've just lost your mind. That's always an easy and potentially obvious viewpoint. Take your pick~

Sometimes we just go "crazy".

It's called life. Why ponder it....either do something about it or wonder forever if you missed out.