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Topic: Argumentativeness
quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Sat 05/30/09 03:12 PM
papersmile and I disagree on lots of stuff. But we don't dwell on our differences rather than our commonalities arguing/debating for the sake of arguing/debating is tedious and usually causes me to go look for something else to do

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 05/30/09 03:12 PM
I know there really isn't a difference in arguements and debates...but in my warped mind...I classify an arguement as a type of fight and can be heated or disrespectful. a debate (to me) is a civil arguement of different sides and in the end....can walk away to agree to disagree or something of that nature. I only say this to avoid any arguements about my posts in here. this way people can TRY to understand my warped mind

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 05/30/09 03:12 PM
The question is that if you are on a date with someone, and that person gave you the impression that he or she is very argumentative, would you go on further to continue to date that person? It depends, are they intentionally seeking arguments? Do they have difficulties understaning things?

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Sat 05/30/09 03:14 PM
I know there really isn't a difference in arguements and debates...but in my warped mind...I classify an arguement as a type of fight and can be heated or disrespectful. a debate (to me) is a civil arguement of different sides and in the end....can walk away to agree to disagree or something of that nature. I only say this to avoid any arguements about my posts in here. this way people can TRY to understand my warped mind I guess you can say there is a distinctive characteristics of what seperate the words "argue" and "debate."

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 05/30/09 03:15 PM
I know there really isn't a difference in arguements and debates...but in my warped mind...I classify an arguement as a type of fight and can be heated or disrespectful. a debate (to me) is a civil arguement of different sides and in the end....can walk away to agree to disagree or something of that nature. I only say this to avoid any arguements about my posts in here. this way people can TRY to understand my warped mind I guess you can say there is a distinctive characteristics of what seperate the words "argue" and "debate." ok ok ok...i'll say it this ONCE...YOU are right

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Sat 05/30/09 03:17 PM Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Sat 05/30/09 03:18 PM
The question is that if you are on a date with someone, and that person gave you the impression that he or she is very argumentative, would you go on further to continue to date that person? It depends, are they intentionally seeking arguments? Do they have difficulties understaning things? Good question. Understanding a person requires a lot of questions in order to see the person as a whole. And arguing only occur when the person say out loud what have been an erroneous translation of what the other person said.

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Sat 05/30/09 03:24 PM
i luv a good argument

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Sat 05/30/09 03:26 PM Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Sat 05/30/09 03:27 PM
i luv a good argument meee toooo

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Sat 05/30/09 03:26 PM
i luv a good argument do not

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Sat 05/30/09 03:27 PM
i luv a good argument do not do too

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Sat 05/30/09 03:27 PM
i luv a good argument meee toooo shux if only u were 'normal'

TxsSun Joined Wed 05/20/09 Posts: 14582	Sat 05/30/09 03:28 PM
i luv a good argument That is why you always walk away

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Sat 05/30/09 03:28 PM
i luv a good argument That is why you always walk away not from u hunni

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 05/30/09 03:32 PM
Argumentative is NOT debating... Argumentative is intentionally being obstructive.... and opposing in every aspect, and usually declines into intentional demeaning behaviours....there is little respect with an argumentative type person...it is an ego feed... and an elevated sense of superiority. Debating is where the respect is constant, and the ideas are opposing.... it is very different.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 05/30/09 03:34 PM
Argumentative is NOT debating... Argumentative is intentionally being obstructive.... and opposing in every aspect, and usually declines into intentional demeaning behaviours....there is little respect with an argumentative type person...it is an ego feed... and an elevated sense of superiority. Debating is where the respect is constant, and the ideas are opposing.... it is very different.

lonetar25 Joined Mon 05/18/09 Posts: 3531	Sat 05/30/09 03:36 PM
i think your both wrong

Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Sat 05/30/09 03:36 PM
i luv a good argument meee toooo shux if only u were 'normal'

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 05/30/09 03:37 PM
Argumentative is NOT debating... Argumentative is intentionally being obstructive.... and opposing in every aspect, and usually declines into intentional demeaning behaviours....there is little respect with an argumentative type person...it is an ego feed... and an elevated sense of superiority. Debating is where the respect is constant, and the ideas are opposing.... it is very different. that's what I tried rto say too. you just said it better (see??? I'm not argueing)

Puffins1958 Joined Tue 02/27/07 Posts: 13637	Sat 05/30/09 03:40 PM
I'm not saying that I would automatically give in, but, generally I would rather not argue with anyone.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 05/30/09 03:41 PM Edited by Jess642 on Sat 05/30/09 03:42 PM
Argumentative is NOT debating... Argumentative is intentionally being obstructive.... and opposing in every aspect, and usually declines into intentional demeaning behaviours....there is little respect with an argumentative type person...it is an ego feed... and an elevated sense of superiority. Debating is where the respect is constant, and the ideas are opposing.... it is very different. that's what I tried rto say too. you just said it better (see??? I'm not argueing) Hahahaha!!! We are all unique and diverse creatures... we have a whole residual bag of emotional triggers we walk around with...and at best we can recognise ego from genuine belief structures...at worst we react, and the whole ideology behind communication gets trampled on... I find that when people who shall remain nameless.... decide they are far more superior in their ideas, get the bum's rush from me...how to stop an argument? agree with them... YOU know you are right for YOU...and that's all that really matters.