would you break it off right away or give another chance....
i break it off right away any time im in a relation i tell her straight
out if you cheat its over cause i dont have any probs controlling myself
but id like to know if im being to harsh or what?

Not at all too harsh. Mabye harder to do than just say. The right thing
none the less.

I think cheating is a deal breaker. Once a cheater always a cheater...so
I would deffinately break it off! That would be the only reason why I
ever got a divorce...I believe that in a marriage you can work through
just about anything---but cheating, is something that just can not be
worked through :)

Well spoken.

And this is the reason I am divorced today lol.... it may be easy to say
and hard to do but as they say ... the reason divorce lawyers are so
expensive is because they are worth it. lol.

Lions you are not harsh at all, very upfront about the whole thing. I
like that, its a quality worth its weight in gold.

no way is that to harsh, because if she is willing to cheat on you then
what's next, besides i have seen the oppisite side where chance after
chance was givin the only thing that happens is they think they can get
away with it so they do it again and again

In less of course you agree in your marriage (like mine) that there is
no such thing as cheating. No one has to cheat if you can agree that a
little outside fun is a good thing. Most people are too possesive of
their mate to do this - but jealousy is not healthy.

Almost every open marriage I've ever seen ends in chaos. I really hope
things work out for you.

chances are i'd most likely break it off but i have this thing and i
like to hear what she'd have to say about it. something about stupid
excuses, i don't quite know what it is.

i geuss i am a lil possevive that way but i also find a lil unsanitary
like what if she came with an std or something?
and thanx for the vote of confidence it does mean alot conciquently it
is the reason i am divorced now aswell

Once more - the Captain - you have statstics to back up the "almost
every" comment I'm sure. I have to tell you I really hate neigh sayers.
It is so easy to be negative. If you do not beleive it will work, I bet
it would fail for you. I'm early on in the open relationship, but I
have also been married for many years (almost 20) and I think it is much
better to be allowed to have a human moment then feel caught.

Regarding STDs, if you are with your dedicated partner and agree that
you will use protection, and not just sleep around like an idiot, this
should not be an issue. I'm not jumping into bed with strangers, nor is
my wife. You have to have some standards in your secondary relationship
or you'd be very stupid.

I don't intend to be negative. Very sorry if it came across that way. I
meant it when I said I hope things work out for the best.

my best freind from middle school is in a swinger marriage he said that
he gets more strange booty now then he ever did single and hes been
married about seven yrs now me i have to admit i am a lil possesive i am
the type who gives my all to that one person if im not enough by myself
for the woman then shes not the right woman for me cause im kinda simple
like that.i dont think i could be in an open relationship like that
i just dont think i could stand someone else being intimate with someone
im in love with i always felt betreyed ...id rather have someone break
up with me than cheat.i know it might hurt but atleast its honest

i don't have a problem with open relationships but if it is not agreed
upon and the intentions are to stay monogomous then i probably would not
accept any form of excuse for cheating.

Well, as they say to each there own for if you are in a open
relationship and it works for you then go for it. But... would I, hell
no for I don't believe in sharing my partner. For I believe if he or she
is taking care of what they have at home in the way it should be taken
care of instead of spreading there affection else where. There would be
no need or thought of wanting to be with anyone but the one your with
for they complete your world sexual. Yes, that is why I'm also divorced
today for to me that is the only thing that I can not forgive or forget
about. Did I leave as soon as I suspected it nooo, maybe out of love or
being stupid or both instead I pleaded for him to stop what he was doing
and make our marriage work. Reason I gave him was because I knew what he
was doing of course he would not admit it I did not nag him on it
instead I set out to see with my own two eyes. Dont ever under mind a
women with a will and a video camera. Lmao, did I end it then ohhh hell
ya 3 days later on my terms just happen to be our 11th year of marriage
to the day. For some reason my lawyer really got a kick out of the way I
did and final day. That was 15 yrs ago I raised my two kids on my own
and proud to say they have turned out to be two wonderful kids now boy
that is 24 and my best friend and my daughter 21 that is as sweet as an
angel. Now to tell the truth do I hate him nooo that was in the past and
have gotton over that took time. Actually now we are on talking terms.
But... that is one thing there are no second chance for once you break
that trust it would be hard to rebuild. If you really love the one your
with why would you even let it cross your mind to sleep with them, It
does not hurt to look for we all will but ya dont have to touch
everything ya look at lol.

Moral of story its not always greener on the other side as so many have
found out the hard way!!

i would kick her to the curve!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

KICK HIS F****IN ASS TO THE CURB!!!!

NOT HARSH AT ALL
ITS HAPPENED TO ME
I DIDNT CATCH HIM IN THE ACT
BUT I DID FIND HER UNDERWEAR IN HIS LAUNDRY
WHICH WHERE QUITE LARGE
AND OBVIOUSLY NOT MINE
SO I WENT OUT TO WHERE HE WAS
AND SAID.......
"DAMN YOU COULD GO PARACHUTING IN THESE FUCKERS!!"
NEEDLESS TO SAY IT WAS OVER
I DO NOT BELEIVE IN CHEATING
EVEN IF IM DATING
ITS ONLY ONE PERSON AT A TIME
LOYALTY AND MONOGAMY
ARE ONLY 2 OF THE MORALS I LIVE BY

Topic: if your signifigent other got caught cheating?

Answer: No. But my ex did...precisely why he is my EX.