I have a really hard time saying no to people. And I did this morning. I am almost in tears for doing it this morning. It was like it was the worst thing that I could have said to somebody. Even though I know it was right. Why does it feel so wrong?

I used to be like that

You have to find your power and grab it!!

No. Is a two letter word that has so much power

Now::

I'm always telling people NO!

I used to be like that

You have to find your power and grab it!!

No. Is a two letter word that has so much power

Now::

I'm always telling people NO!

Sorry

A little emotional?

Its cool, i'm sure you had your reason. Why sweat it, its not your fault if someone can't deal with a no

I used to be told when I was younger, "You are going to be such a great wife and mother one day." Why, because I couldn't say no to anyone. Growing up in a house of 6 six children and 2 parents there was someone always asking for something to be done. I was the one who did it all. Now I have learned to say NO at the appropriate times. I find myself slipping into my old ways, especially towards my children or my mom. I have to be really exhausted to say No and stick to it when my children are involved.

Trust me, you get over feeling bad about saying no. Then, it becomes your favorite word. People might give you crap at first but they'll adjust.

My piece of advice, the more you try to explain, reason, justify the "no" the harder it gets to stick with it. Only justify if ABSOLUTELY necessary.

You'll come to realize that No is a very powerful word and very liberating.

Thanks guys. It is not him I was worrying about not being able to handle the word no. It is me.

I am just use to being a Yes girl. Somebody wants me to do something I am right there trying my best to help you out.

when it doubt walk it out..

I hear ya. But you have to ask yourself, at what expense to YOURSELF are you always saying yes? It's a valid question and one well worth exploring. That doesn't mean you have to say no all the time but if you are sacrificing yourself to say yes, you have to weigh the importance of the request and if it's low in priority (your priorities), then there's no reason to feel bad for saying no. If you don't take care of you, who will?

It's impossible to please everyone all the time. It's also impossible to be there all the time for everyone. U'll put urself into an early grave. There's absolutely nuthin wrong with sayin NO. Just make sure the delivery is appropriate.

exactly

no means no

as soon as you have to explain you it have to defend it

Sometimes you just got to put your foot down, but if it means anything i think your a good person you try to make people happy. Don't feel so bad when you have to say no though, otherwise people are just gonna keep ripping away at your good intentions and it'd be a shame to have another person feeling used, sad, and/or alone . . .

Maybe i'm over thinking this

sorry

Thank you. it was really just a new word for me. But thank you all for your advice. I feel better about saying it now.