was out of the dating scene for a year while in a relationship...
the relationship went horrendously bad and ended like some
kind of odd freaky reality show....left me severely depressed
for 3 months...
now that I'm back in the dating scene...when should I offer
to tell the tale of my last relationship?...When a woman meets
a guy is that something they want to know right away?...and if the
guy doesnt offer to tell do they get suspicious because they have
to ask?...I struggle with the idea that I am a "rebound" date...not
sure if I believe in that....

Pardon me......lost in those blue eyes!!!

I wouldn't go into details right away unless she asked, but I think full details like that should be discussed when you both are comfortable with each other. (Say like after the third date.)

Well, I don't ask about past relationships. I don't think it's really a good idea to talk much about them on a date.

Hi E ....thank you...been a while huh?

I don't really have to know someone's past relationships either unless for instance the guy had kids and/or an ex. In which case I'd want to know

It is hard to cover the bitterness of failed relationships so it can come off really negative and will put her off.

I say later when you are contemplating a relationship because dating is just the testing period.

My opinion of course.

I was upset, Bill, when you disappeared off my friends list and my yahoo wasn't working right so I couldn't get in touch.....

Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but glad to see you back.

I think once there is a level of comfort between you that you should be able to begin discussing things from your past. Only the two of you will know when that is. I certainly don't suggest it in the first bit of communication, except in general passing that you were recently in a relationship, it is ended, etc.

I could write a book about the experience maybe...was that bizarre...
but I'm back now....I would like to think wiser....haha..who knows...

Don't volunteer information right away. Only if she asks. People form rash opinions easily.

actually...when talking to friends & relatives I refuse to get into
bashing of any kind...not good karma....
appreciate the comments everyone...

Nah, we only do that with you, hon.

Hi and sorry you had such a bad experience. This internet dating is so strange. I think there is a time and place where two will talk about past relationships but in my opinion that would not be right away because there are just some waiting to see if your gonna say anything to give them a chance to run. The dreaded meet and greet is no the place to be getting into anything deep. Good luck darlin. I don't think you will have any troubles at all, someone will grab you up real quick
Kandy aka sweetcheeks