Yes, but you can't not try for the future based on the past, that is for sure. I had to learn that one. It's difficult. Sometimes though, you just get the right two people to cross paths and it works. I hope this happens for her.

Yes, but you can't not try for the future based on the past, that is for sure. I had to learn that one. It's difficult. Sometimes though, you just get the right two people to cross paths and it works. I hope this happens for her.

But I did. Although I'm just fine being alone, I'm better off as a matter of fact. Some people are better off alone, some are not.

I used to believe that, too....until I was proven differently (which I also thought couldn't be done).

well i have been on this site since january of this year. i have meet some wonderful people and have enjoyed the friends that i have made across the country. i have been talking to someone since the end of march and have really enjoyed getting to know him over the phone and emails and texts. he has made everyday much more enjoyeable, he makes me laugh and has some wonderful qualities. we have more than alot in common and i truely feel like i would be very lucky to become part of his life. and i think my daughter would benifit from having such a wonderful man in her life also as her dad has really taken no part in her life. i must admit i am at the point where i want to finally meet him in person. i have felt almost like a school girl for the past several weeks and at my age i never thought i would feel that way again.
do you think that we have had enough time to find out if we are compatable? we are planning on meeting at the end of july (we will have known each other for almost 4 months at that point) and i am super excited about finally getting to see him in person.

I'd say patience and caution are two things which cannot be overlooked and overstated.

You say you've "known" each other for four months. How can you really know anyone until you've met and spent a significant amount of time with each other? The mental and emotional bond that can develop through the written and spoken word is a powerful one. However, meeting face to face is much different.

Even if this is the "the one," do not build up unrealistic expectations. People tend do that through this medium and it is the death of any potential relationship.

I used to believe that, too....until I was proven differently (which I also thought couldn't be done).