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Obviously if there is a dish with anchovies, you can pretty much pass over that one and save yourself some time. Even the most appealling dish could taste nasty, you never know until you try it.  HEY!!!
I like anchovies! 
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I'm lost, I just do not get it. I truly believe NO ONE should settle but hell the pick'ins are thin. I know you women have to be as frustrated as some us men. Women want a good man. Hmmmm is that true? It seems all my women friends that are looking for a good man, they pick out the assholes. Hell I could see it coming before they did. Then they get all upset and do not understand. Then us men we all seem like hell we can do better, but why do we think this way? What makes us think and chose badly? An no offense and I truly truly mean that. But I totally like this site because you can put yourself next to the other person. I do not get it when someone wants to meet and it's like what were they thinking. Like I said I do not want to offend. But we are all human, there needs to be some attraction. Lend me your opinions and call it like it is, let it out. Don't look so poorly upon your female friends. Just because the guy acts like a jerk around you and YOU can tell he's a jerk doesn't mean he's behaving the same way around her. Some men act like "Prince Charming" while around the female he's trying to impress and get and then after he gets her (or what he wants from her) he stops trying to impress and lets his true colors show. Then she's left confused because she doesn't know what she did wrong to make him change into a beast. Before anyone says anything... yes, women can be like that as well. Very solid observation. |
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Obviously if there is a dish with anchovies, you can pretty much pass over that one and save yourself some time. Even the most appealling dish could taste nasty, you never know until you try it. HEY!!!
I like anchovies!
Ewwww.... but they're so oily and boney 
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Very solid observation.  Thanks Josh... but lay off the anchovies... they're yummy!
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Edited by
Jess642
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An insight?
Women want confident, assertive men, who know who they are, what they want from life, and have the tenacity to get it. Does that equate a woman being a doormat? No. it means a man who can see his partner, appreciate her qualities, respect her, and still be solid in himself. We dont want men who are soft, in their convictions. That's why bad guys appear so attractive....whether we will admit it or not, we are so incapable of being attracted to men who appear emasculated... who are not solid in their unique maleness. We feel safe with men who are capable, and confident, we can trust they are who they project themselves to be...they walk their talk... they have the capacity for empathy, and compassion, and a sensitivity to their partner, but ultimately, can be relied upon to be supportive, or take charge. We are all capable of being independent, as usually quite competant people.... doesn't necessarily mean women wish to remain dominant within the relationship. For me, a dominant, confidant personality is attractive. I know this is a generalisation, however it fits the question asked, re; bad guys. |
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I'm lost, I just do not get it. I truly believe NO ONE should settle but hell the pick'ins are thin. I know you women have to be as frustrated as some us men. Women want a good man. Hmmmm is that true? It seems all my women friends that are looking for a good man, they pick out the assholes. Hell I could see it coming before they did. Then they get all upset and do not understand. Then us men we all seem like hell we can do better, but why do we think this way? What makes us think and chose badly? An no offense and I truly truly mean that. But I totally like this site because you can put yourself next to the other person. I do not get it when someone wants to meet and it's like what were they thinking. Like I said I do not want to offend. But we are all human, there needs to be some attraction. Lend me your opinions and call it like it is, let it out. Don't look so poorly upon your female friends. Just because the guy acts like a jerk around you and YOU can tell he's a jerk doesn't mean he's behaving the same way around her. Some men act like "Prince Charming" while around the female he's trying to impress and get and then after he gets her (or what he wants from her) he stops trying to impress and lets his true colors show. Then she's left confused because she doesn't know what she did wrong to make him change into a beast. Before anyone says anything... yes, women can be like that as well. nice observation 
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Edited by
darkowl1
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Tue 05/19/09 08:46 PM
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An insight? Women want confident, assertive men, who know who they are, what they want from life, and have the tenacity to get it. Does that equate a woman being a doormat? No. it means a man who can see his partner, appreciate her qualities, respect her, and still be solid in himself. We dont want men who are soft, in their convictions. That's why bad guys appear so attractive....whether we will admit it or not, we are so incapable of being attracted to men who appear emasculated... who are not solid in their unique maleness. We feel safe with men who are capable, and confident, we can trust they are who they project themselves to be...they walk their talk... they have the capacity for empathy, and compassion, and a sensitivity to their partner, but ultimately, can be relied upon to be supportive, or take charge. We are all capable of being independent, as usually quite competant people.... doesn't necessarily mean women wish to remain dominant within the relationship. For me, a dominant, confidant personality is attractive. I know this is a generalisation, however it fits the question asked, re; bad guys. well put. confidence is a virtue lost by many, and if studied, "nice guys would not finnish last....be who you are, but be strong. it's okay to mess up, just keep learning and it'll come naturally
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nice observation
Thanks Vincent.
Will reply to email soon... just taking a break... tired of answering same old stuff...  not yours, others.
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lori... ygm... quick
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Edited by
Jess642
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Tue 05/19/09 08:51 PM
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well put. confidence is a virtue lost by many, and if studied, "nice guys would not finnish last....be who you are, but be strong. it's okay to mess up, just keep learning and it'll come naturally
Confidence in one's self, is about what one does if they mess up.... it's learning from the experience, growing from it, taking responsibility of one's own actions. That creates a stronger confidence in themselves... too many people take on board other's ideas of who they may be.... there is only you inside you... no one can take anything from you, that you are not willing to hand over.... including confidence in themselves. |
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nice observation
Thanks Vincent.
Will reply to email soon... just taking a break... tired of answering same old stuff... not yours, others.
lori  , i'm not worried, but thanks for the re-assurance, and i've got confidence
i hope you like the new stories. i'm editing as i go by, and you get to see my editing, sorrryy1!! |
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well put. confidence is a virtue lost by many, and if studied, "nice guys would not finnish last....be who you are, but be strong. it's okay to mess up, just keep learning and it'll come naturally
Confidence in one's self, is about what one does if they mess up.... it's learning from the experience, growing from it, taking responsibility of one's own actions. That creates a stronger confidence in themselves... too many people take on board other's ideas of who they may be.... there is only you inside you... no one can take anything from you, that you are not willing to hand over.... including confidence in themselves. well IF THIS THAT WE'VE ALL WRITTEN HERE DOESN'T RE-ASSURE HIM, NOTHING WILL!!
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lori... ygm... quick Huh??? 'ygm'??? 
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U've only been here for just over a month an only posted all of 7 times in the forums. This site is more about gettin to know people in the forums rather than browsin profiles. Give urself some time an get into the forums. Get to know people an let them get to know u. 
This is true about this website. I have been on several different sites for almost two years now. So I'm not only post my experiences from here. I just happen to like the set up at this site better than others I'm on or have been on. |
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U've only been here for just over a month an only posted all of 7 times in the forums. This site is more about gettin to know people in the forums rather than browsin profiles. Give urself some time an get into the forums. Get to know people an let them get to know u.
This is true about this website. I have been on several different sites for almost two years now. So I'm not only post my experiences from here. I just happen to like the set up at this site better than others I'm on or have been on. U give the impression of bein a sweet guy. Don't give up so easily. Like I said, get out in the forums an make urself known. Never know what'll happen.
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An insight? Women want confident, assertive men, who know who they are, what they want from life, and have the tenacity to get it. Does that equate a woman being a doormat? No. it means a man who can see his partner, appreciate her qualities, respect her, and still be solid in himself. We dont want men who are soft, in their convictions. That's why bad guys appear so attractive....whether we will admit it or not, we are so incapable of being attracted to men who appear emasculated... who are not solid in their unique maleness. We feel safe with men who are capable, and confident, we can trust they are who they project themselves to be...they walk their talk... they have the capacity for empathy, and compassion, and a sensitivity to their partner, but ultimately, can be relied upon to be supportive, or take charge. We are all capable of being independent, as usually quite competant people.... doesn't necessarily mean women wish to remain dominant within the relationship. For me, a dominant, confidant personality is attractive. I know this is a generalisation, however it fits the question asked, re; bad guys. Can't add anything to THAT! Except DON'T give up. I did. I had. DON'T!!! |
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I'll be honest...I only read this up until the asshole bit, then I just figured the rest to be another "nice guys finish last" rant...maybe I'm wrong, but such is life. Sorry it has nothing to do with nice guys finishing last. It is what it is. I never said I was a nice guy. |
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it's also ok to ask for re-assurance, to know if you're on the right track, for your strength, and if there is none, don't keep beating down that door. there's only pain behind it. then being a victim.
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U've only been here for just over a month an only posted all of 7 times in the forums. This site is more about gettin to know people in the forums rather than browsin profiles. Give urself some time an get into the forums. Get to know people an let them get to know u.
This is true about this website. I have been on several different sites for almost two years now. So I'm not only post my experiences from here. I just happen to like the set up at this site better than others I'm on or have been on. U give the impression of bein a sweet guy. Don't give up so easily. Like I said, get out in the forums an make urself known. Never know what'll happen.
I'll log on more often and post more, so maybe people can get a feel of who I am. |
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Jess, this was too good not to repeat because that really is IT!
You said.. "We feel safe with men who are capable, and confident, we can trust they are who they project themselves to be...they walk their talk... they have the capacity for empathy, and compassion, and a sensitivity to their partner, but ultimately, can be relied upon to be supportive, or take charge." Dead on! |
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