Do you think this statement is true or false...

YOU ARE WHO YOU ATTRACT->
that means the mentality of the opposite sex personalities you attract are who you are on some level...

(i.e.- if your silly you attract silly people
if your crazy you attract crazy people
if your mean you attract mean people
ect. ect. ect.)

I don't know.. I can see that there might be some validity to that but I think we also attract what we're attracted to, be it something in our sub-conscious, due to our past, our parents, fantasies of what a mate should be or look like.. I know people that seek out men with money that are easily controlled.. That only go to dive bars b/c they will look the best there.. People do some nutty things..

im confused...

Maybe I'm not understanding what you mean..

INDNPRNCS-->your last statement is confusing to me. can you break it down....plz i really want to kno wut your thinking.

You said that if it were true that we attracted those with the same traits that everyone would be in a relationship and not single..

I do not think so.. There are many people that do not realize how they are... They are blind to themselves and their actions at times... Some people are users, or just mean.. They don't think they're that way... So when they attract a user or a mean person they think it's only that person...

Mind you I don't agree with the "attract who we are", but I do see some validity in that though process...

does that make more sense?

yes i understand what your saying.....

i agree that people are blind to themselves...but to me that makes my question more true to me.

absolutely.. I think it holds true to a point but I also think other things come into play... I don't think any one theory can be absolute.. We're talking about humans and we're all so different in some ways, a lot of ways, it just depends... It's like I could like a mean guy b/c I'm mean, yet he goes beyond mean to the point of sadistic, well I wouldn't like that.. I could like someone that loves to hang out and have fun b/c I do but he takes it too far to the point of dangerous.. At those points I wouldn't be liking that person very long, other things would come into play..

We change and adjust as we go through life. My history of women is that of variety, not uniform stereotypes. Tall, short, smart, not so smart, calm, crazy, feisty, mild mannered.

But I am single now and maybe that is the problem. I don't know what I want... or maybe the problem is just me.

Hey... I resemble that remark. I mean, I resent that remark.

I am not bipolar, yet I am subconsciously attracted to crazy bipolar girls, who keep breaking my heart.

Wait, that's crazy...

Maybe I AM crazy after all.

Nah...

I find that I tend to attract those with traits which I am lacking. I guess it's a subconscious way to balance and/or ground me.

So, in that case, I tend to disagree with the OP.

Although, in most cases, i thnk we all have a little bit of everything - somewhere - inside us, that just needs to be coaxed out, and the particular type of person you attract might be what is needed to do that.

I would say false. Many times someone is attracted to someone without really knowing how a person "truly" is. Someone attracted to a mean person initially many times does not know they are mean... and this happens to silly, crazy people also. Meaning silly, crazy people being attracted to someone mean. Yes, people may be blind to themselves, but a life time of conditioning would surely have given them a clue along the way. The school yard is a great learning experience for anyone. Also I believe that people have some tendencies to be attracted to the kind of people they would like to be also. Someone shy may be attracted to someone outgoing, etc...

birds of a feather flock together whateva!

False--Because if I attracted guys that were like me, they would be smart, sexy, honest and not an alcoholic. And that my friends hasn't happened yet.

One flew east,
one flew west.

One flew over the cuckoo's nest!

false

I find the same thing, at least in those that I attract or am attracted to. I am drawn to the potential for balance, as well as common interests/traits.

I don't think I could date someone exactly like me - I'd want to kill him in a week, tops!

Birds of a feather.. Oppisites attract