Ok, so I went out on a date with this girl the other night (took her to dinner date). She was supposed to move back home yesterday and didn't. She called me last night to tell me she was going to a party (that my friends were throwing and my band was playing in) and was making sure I was going. So she is 2.5 hours late so I call her and her ride had to pick someone up from the airport or something, and they asked if there was food and we told them yea. Midnight we get busted by the cops cause our band is too loud, but they are cool about it and just tell us to turn down and have some more drinks. So I call her to tell her not to come because people are starting to leave and we are going to go downtown or to a house party. She says she will call me back in 10 and never does. My friend calls her later and she is just "chillin" at a friends place.

This girl seems and sounds really nice and I am wondering if she is just a "*****" or if she is really just clueless to how rude it is to at least not call me and give me a heads up to what is going on. I mean she did initiate the thing by calling me when I thought I wouldn't see her for 3 months. My friends that know her better say thats just how she is and she is really immature but that just seems ridiculous.

JMO - she seems rude and why waste your time with someone who doesn't respect you enough to be on time or have any follow through on what she says? There are many, many lovely ladies in the world who are dependable and know what it means to do what they say they will do. But, this is just my humble opinion

Hmmm I'd say immature, rude and thoughtless. Probably thinks the world rotates around her as well and she always thinks she has to be the center of attention. Unless you like being on the back burner because she has better things to do I'd say forget about her....

you told her not to bother coming.

if you were making alternate plans (you indicated you may be going to one of two places) and you wanted to make sure she knew and was able to come as well, it should have been your responsibility to call her when you'd decided on the venue.

My friend called her and said we were all going downtown. I already called her 3-4 times that night.

The same thing happened the night before on our date. We scheduled the day a week in advance, but she had a final and we didn't schedule the time. She was supposed to call me after her final. I call her at 4:30 and she returns it at 5 and says she will call me back in a bit. 2 hours later I call her back and she is talking with friends about finals and says lets eat at 8. She is sweet as can be when you are with her, but trying to do stuff with her is a pain. Like I said, my friends tell me that's how she is.

common courtesy, it is lacking in most younger people who have no clue as to treat someone else. Its always about them.. You at least when contacted gave her updates and tried. She just doesn't get it. My question would be ., are you ready to put up with that for any period of time. Even others say she is this way. So you are forewarned..

If you continue to try to have a relationship with her be prepared to be frustrated the majority of the time since she seems to lack manners and respect for others.

Yeah...I would say she sounds clueless.
I would spend my time on someone who would appreciate you, jmo.

There are other fish in the sea. Find one that tastes more like chicken.

It sounds like you are spending too much time trying to figure out why you are bothering with her. Save that energy and put it into someone that is worthy of your time. Good luck to ya!

Well, she goes back home today so I won't see her for 3 months. My friend also says she is very conservative and doesn't even know I like her. (which isn't the case anymore because I messaged her on fb when I was drunk at the bar last night). No I am not going to pursue her anymore. If she calls me and wants to do something, that is ok, but I am tired of chasing her even though she is super cute.

I did get a second girls # the same day I got her's, so when the students come back in town for the fall semester I will give that other girl a call.

In the mean time, it is only 4 weeks before my month long vacation in Japan and my friend is taking me back on the town tonight. So I have some distractions at least.

Drop her......First rule of trying to date a "super cute" girl is never give her that much attention. Calling 3-4 times labeled you as desperate. Something women can't stand.

Kick her to the curb, she's playing you!

Agreed

Well that was over 6 hours and included missing her call so I called her back, the call about being late and seeing if she was coming, and one about the party ending.

I didn't want to call her again when she didn't call me back for that very reason. That is why one of my friends called her. (he knew her longer than I did and knew she was supposed to come)

Dump her.