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Topic: Small children.......Deal Breaker?????
adj4u's photo
Sat 08/15/09 10:23 PM
the only part of her having a child would be putting the child first

your sig other comes first

and then both of you should put the child next


Winx's photo
Sat 08/15/09 10:24 PM

Thank you all I really appreciate the comments. From them I am thinking I might be spending night alone for the next 11 years lol. She is more than worth it. I have grown kids also all on their own so I do have babysitters. What about eldlerly parents living with someone? Is that a deal breaker also? We are the sandwich generation, could be small kids could be elderly parents. I don't have my parents any more but would like thoughts on this issue also.
Have a great weekend everyone.waving


Hi, fellow St. Louisian. I'm doing something similar to you. lol

robert1652's photo
Sat 08/15/09 10:48 PM
Almost certainly a deal breaker

I have twins and while I have no problems pulling women (Not boasting) the moment they find out I have twins they are off like a bat out of hell. Like they bolt as the wild horse will do
I don't blame them as the presupposition is I may be looking for a mother for them which can not be further removed than the truth as I am a very good mother as well as father for them. However the fact remains that kids are deal breakers but I don't care

craftykitty's photo
Wed 09/16/09 01:18 PM
For me it's not a deal breaker--i have a 13 year old
at home--and i have the patience of a saint--luckily,
my problem is that my son is special needs---most men
don't want anything to do with that--mostly because
i can't go at the drop of a hat--i have to plan an
outing or make sure there is someone available to look
in on my son---

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 09/16/09 01:21 PM
I have 3 boys, the youngest is 15.... I really wouldn't be interested in being with anyone who has one younger..I raised my boys alone and I don't want to raise anymore.

Gossipmpm's photo
Wed 09/16/09 01:31 PM
Deal breaker for me

No more little ones!!

I want it to be me and my man time

Jmo:heart:

polypeasant's photo
Wed 09/16/09 01:36 PM

I have 3 boys, the youngest is 15.... I really wouldn't be interested in being with anyone who has one younger..I raised my boys alone and I don't want to raise anymore.


AD...that was after divorce....I never had children and was more than thrilled with the thought of being the "stepmother".

Years later, I work with children and see them all day from 5 to 18. I know how great they can be and the reverse. The worse part is all the needs, medical, dental, clothes, etc. Hard to step into that role for most people...

mssilverfox's photo
Wed 09/16/09 01:47 PM
I raised my own and helped raise my late husbands children. I have also taken care of my gkids when they were little and the parents needed help...At this time in my life( I am older than most here) I don't want to take on any more young children...flowerforyou

delilady's photo
Wed 09/16/09 01:51 PM
Deal Breaker. When I was 25 I met and eventually married a man with 3 children 11, 13 and 18. I never was a mother figure-more like an older sister. When they're Dad said no on anything it was my fault. I accepted the bad guy role and today have a great relationship with them. We also had 2 sons together and the kids are all close. Did I go through rough times? Yes. Plenty. At this time in my life my youngest is almost 18. I am ready to be done with raising children. I could probably handle a teenager but younger would be a deal breaker for me. I think 28 years of raising children has given me a right to "me" time.

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