I talked to some women on other dating sites, and according to many, I have a "bad boy" look and they are afraid I'm not looking for a serious relationship. It kinda bothers me, how someone with a "bad boy" probably not looking for a serious relationship, hence it's probably one of the reasons, that women might pre-judge me, before they get to know me. I also get it here on mingle that "you must be flooded with girls" and "you probably won't even care about me" and stuff like that. It's really tiring, I feel like I have to keep repeating myself and try to convince some that I am looking for a serious relationship and I don't have time for games.

I also don't think I have a "bad boy look", I consider myself average looking and tired of hearing about the "bad boy look".

So what do you think?

I don't get that impression when I see your pictures but maybe if you smiled a litte in some it would help..

I don't think you look like a bad boy

There's some swelling going on in my undies

I think you're better off now to find out about their paranoid dillusions, indecision, insecurities, selfishness, shallowness, and neuroses. It beats finding it out after you date them.

I get that crap too.

well, if you don't want the "bad boy" look....then have a gay guy style you up LOL

it is what it is.........


i already accepted the way i am .....

HA! I get told I 'look like I am such a nice guy' and we all know what that gets me...


Who the hell wrote 'nice guy' on my forehead?????????

Atlantis... you are an attractive guy. What happens is that they are not secure enough themselves and use the "bad boy" term as an excuse as to why you might not like them.

Also, you don't smile. You look serious, or possibly like you are "daring" someone to take a look. Not sure if that is the right terminology... but that's what comes to mind. That kind of "devil be damned" look. Then there are the pics with the bike, the tank, etc. Ready to go kick some butt... that's what it says to me at first glance.

After reading your posts, and getting a different feel for you, it is obvious that you have a sense of humor and a serious side, but some mistake the serious side for nonchalance or arrogance... which some people attribute to being a bad boy.

That's just my 2 cents.

the bad boy look can be very sexy...but that doesn't make YOU a bad boy. if people took the time to get to know you, they would see what a sweet guy you are

I posted a pic of me on my Harley once and it was "assumed" that I had a one dimensional personality and had stereotypical "Biker" opinions about everything (whatever that means). I have had a ride since I was fourteen but would rather be judged by my thoughts, not my picture. My posted pic is the "vanilla" shot of me. I can do and have done more things than ride a bike. I love it, love the culture and history of it, but it is just a part of my life.

If you think your pic is hurting your chances with women, change it. Hopefully you will meet that person who it wouldn't have mattered anyway.

and that is pretty much the whole problem. People form one dimensional opinion of a person based on that snapshot in time

you see it all the time on the internet. people falling in love with a picture and being shocked when they meet the person and discover that they are more than that one dimension

Ok, I included a smiling picture, just made it about 3 min. ago

So is this gonna make me less of a bad boy?

That bad boy image is what attracts many women. Sounds like these women are just asking the question, "are you taken or would you be interested?" Sort of a neurotic and insecure way to go about it but my guess is that is the intention.

Do you go through the matching process so they've already been matched???


Good Luck in your search. You look just fine 2 me.

thanks hon, yeah i do the matching thingie, but not much in my close proximity, only a few, and honestly I'm picky, and just being pretty doesn't do enough for me, but i thought that supposed to be a good trait.

hun...don't worry about it. you are who you are. if someone can't get passed the pictures to actually get to know you...then don't waste your time. there is nothing wrong with your pics and you are a great guy

I don't know you other than from what you post in the forums. But, you seem to have this attitude that unless someone agrees with what you have to say, that they're wrong. Maybe that kind of attitude puts people off a bit? Put that together with the "bad boy" look you say people are telling you that you have and maybe that what they're talking about?

I think your HAWT