Forget the dictionary's meaning of 'infidelity", the world is a much more open minded place, what do you think makes your partner a 'cheater'? are they cheating if they just have a minor crush on someone else while theyr'e with you? what if they just have random sex with someone else, like a prostitute, but you're the one they are committed to in mind and soul? or is a cheater your better half who actually falls for someone else? you tell me, i think the mind is the strongest part of a person and if my partner is committed to me on that behalf then only when that committment fails and is transferred to someone else is when he cheats

C'mon it's 2009 get out there & cheat!!

I see a selling point in there somewhere...might want to trademark that Pats.

Having sex with someone else is definetely a cheating, and having a crush on that person is the point, when it's not only cheating but also offending. That of course is only true if it goes behind my back, instead of telling me first how she doesn't love me anymore. Then it's not cheating, never the less I'll be hurt anyway, but least I'm prepared.

You are making me have impure thoughts!!

thats funny for reall

uuuh ok lol how so??

If you lust for someone else, that's cheating of the heart and, soul. If you have sex with someone else, well then, that's just friggen cheating, flat out! I make NO EXCEPTION'S.

OK...

Two schools of thought.

Wife or husband fails to satisfy something the other wants in their life like especially a lack of sex and other reasons...
This is the Pain Reflex Reaction. Hurt me = Hurt You.


Second School...

DOG SCHOOL IS NOW OPEN!

THE OTHER PERSON IS A FLAT OUT LYING DOG! They live for the hunt and the intrigue. It is a test to see how much they can get away with until they are caught. Boy or girl, dogs come in both flavors. This comes under the category of SELF INDULGENCE.

That is why I so much prefer being a Wolf. Dogs are just a watered down imitation of someone with some class. Now don't get me wrong. We are all human and we all have wants and needs. We are all needful people. The questions is how honest is both sides with each other.

For instance,

What would you do if your BF requested some Greek Delight from you? (Think "wrong door" on this one so I don't have to spell this one out. It is just an example of cause and effect.) Now granted this is probably not your thing at all. Now when he ask you, you freak out on him completely instead of looking him right in the eyes and telling him "baby, that just ain't my bag." How do you think he is going to handle this? Now as time goes along he gets friendly with some cotton tail that says, "Greek Delight is my bag baby!" Well he is going to want to scratch that itch. Then when he gets it he finds out he likes it a lot! Well, another relationship just dies when he gets caught.


The thing is sometimes it is self fulfillment and others a reaction to a problem. Here is a very classic example, husband is super religious and his wife is almost but not quite. She wants her husband to touch her like a woman but he is not giving her any affection let alone her promise in bed. Eventually she is going to meet someone who will be just as frustrated and just as eager to scratch that itch and blammo, another pious man gets his pride and vanity shot down!


It all boils down to this, what we have learned about life, and relationships is a lie. The truth takes work to divine and in reality of it many people lost perspective of what a relationship is and that is two people trying to find mutual fulfillment and safe ground we can depend on. Commitment has lost its meaning and a lot of women get so totally disillusioned when they think they can use sex as a reward to make us men behave the way they want to. Times have changed since the last 20 years. Men think they can play the domination and "I am the boss" game and a lot of women don't buy that either. The fact is we come into this life alone and we leave it alone.

Do we walk it with grace or gracelessly while we have it?

fair enuff :)

It's cheating when what you are doing makes you act differently, treat your partner differently. If your partner pays attention, he/she knows right away when something is going on.

sometimes thinking about being with someone else can be healthy, altho if it gets to wear your obsessed and your partner becomes un happy about it then should stop asap. Flirting is ok in my books. Kissing, touching, sending emails, texts or calling someone else which isnt in a friendly way, or sending pictures to me is cheating. If someone is hideing it behind your back its cheating.

If im with someone and they have female friends i like to be kept up to speed with thats happening..

I think cheating depends on each person.. always best to lay down what is and isnt alowed...

acting on an impuse that hurts others, and eventulay hurts you.

Cheaters never win. And winners never cheat.

when someone else gets to lick my only lollipop

I'm thinking T- shirts

Maybe advertising on dating sites

That's a good one Pat's! Funny.........

yeah pat's funny

if it is done behind someone's back or without their consent....cheating

I think if there is intent there... it is considered cheating.

We could make up a logo and print it on a thong.

Kinda like we did with the beaver over there

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