Nietzsche once said that a married philosopher is something that belongs
in a comedy. Do you agree? Are there people who (not in any kind of bad
or depressing way) are meant to be alone?

I sometimes think so, yes.

Yeah, Ive seen it. Fine & Happy...all alone.

& Ive seen people who aren't happy unless they are completely smothered
with attention.

Matter of how one's mind ticks.

lol then theres me! read all my post maybe you'll agree

Some people don't need partners in there lives.

Some people had the partner of their lives, are widowed and are happy to
be alone.

Nietzsche, a very wise man, was probably correct concerning some, if not
many people. I agree. Some people are just not suited for a partnership.
I am beginning to think I have become one of those people. I am happy
living "alone". I didn't think I would be, but I have adjusted well.

I think it's all a question of.. 'can you LIVE with yourself withOUT
needing to be with someone..' and the answer in THAT case is YES.. you
CAN!!

Regardless.. human nature fills us all with the NEED to seek out others
for MANY reasons.. attention, comfort, compassion, companionship and
love.. yet the complexity and 'free spirit' of life today does not
always allow 'space or time' to fulfill that part of our lives.. so we
'find' ourselves alone.. does this mean we are NOT to have a partner?
no.. I think not.. I rather think it's more a 'choice/decision' on our
parts and not 'ordained' that way

there is a great difference between being alone and being lonely.

as long as you like who you are then you are never truly
alone

I am alone by choice. I have a dream, of passing the home Gwen & I put
so much work into, on to my son & his family. David had said,at Gwen's
death, that he might want this house someday. It became an idea that I
have worked towards these past 10 yrs. He has 6.5 left before he
retires from the military. (2 weeks before his 38th birthday)

If they come, I will move into a room (yet to be built) off the kitchen
& garage. Will be able to come & go as I want, but keep an eye on the
grandkids when they are in the lake. Being with my family would be
great.

So, till I know what they are doing, I chose to live alone.
Should they not come, I know what my options are. I never say never &
nothing is sent in stone.

Thus I chose my loneliness also. I think I could have someone living
with me, if I am ready to make that commitment; we all could most
likely. When I get down & havea pity party; I remember that small BIG
word - CHOICE.

Yes alone by CHOICE.

I'm very happy being alone most of the time. I used to party and mingle
with something like 300 or more people every Friday night, for several
years. These days, I don't like being around more than just a few close
friends, if that.

At the same time, sometimes I feel profoundly lonely. I feel like I
wasn't meant to live life without a partner, without someone to share it
with.

I know that I don't need that 24/7, though. In fact, having someone here
"all the time" would drive me batty.

So sometimes I feel I was "meant to" be alone, and other times I don't.

Some people are chose to a higher calling. They CHOOSE to be alone, to
search for that voice, that force that pulls at their heart, in search
of their TRUE spirit!!!

i was even bred to be alone!! it works fine it's on the hard
drive...my great great great great ..ok back some 2000 years my
grandmothers were all matriarchs.... so i have never seen what it looks
like to grow up with a man in the house unless it was my son....who was
the first male born in those 2000 years of recorded lineage.... good
eh??


we did just fine..... all of us.


in case you were wondering...the Lebanese people were very good at
keeping records of family lineage...

I used to think alone was good

Alone, ain't so bad once you get used to it.

you can be lonely in a crowd.sometimes ya meet special people ya can
relate to and they you and when that happens you can have a
hoot. ant.

Z wrote: I rather think it's more a 'choice/decision' on our
parts and not 'ordained' that way


....and I would have to agree. Circumstances in life may push you in
one direction or another, but a choice can be made to accept or reject
that push.

I do believe there are people who are more comfortable with the idea of
being alone. But "meant" to be alone? That's a little too teleological
for me -- "meant" assumes there is a "meaner," someone or something who
"means" for the person to be alone -- i.e., "meant" by who or what? --
and I have no reason to think that's the case.

I have chosen to be alone since last October, simply to deal with the
residue left over from some bad relationships. Having dealt with said
residue, for the most part, I am considering choosing not to be alone at
some point in the future.

So, Z's "choice/decision" formulation seems right on the money to me.

Certainly seems that way

I believe that some people are meant to be alone... not that they dont
interact with others... just not meant to live with someone.