raising kids in very different religions and holidays being a large issue, should two people from largely diverce religions have kids or will the holiday issue cause such issues that it will be best to not have kids.

*a religion that celibrates no holidays or birthdays and one that does.*

IF those two are going to get married, I'd think they would take care of those issues before kids even enter the picture... Heck, before continuing dating even...

As in: my father became a Jehovah Witness at around 50 or so.. He knew I loved Christmas and went all out.. He'd help me bring in the tree and set it up b/c men do that for women but he wouldn't help me decorate.. He would accept gifts as long as I called them "unChristmas" gifts...

God has nothing to do with it. Family and peer pressure have everything to do with it.

If its going to be an issue then no,two people of different religion should not be together.

My advice is to talk about it and compromise, agree to raise the kids in one religion. Its definitely not something you want to deal with when your at that point.

Good logic. I have friends and family that did that and it works.

..without god there is no one else to blame..as far as compromising on religions..i would go with the one that offers the most presents... ..i like presents.. jk

Cool thanks for the thoughts.

my opinion was that the best idea what to choose a religion and raise them that way yet relationships are compromises so it makes it dificult to compromise if one feels its a compromise to there God.

yes I think its a large enough factor to idle a relationship tell that issue is delt with however its hard to idle a new relationship without it stalling.

It has everything to do with it! I married an atheist! I had no idea as it had not been discussed before the wedding. Our first Christmas together was a disaster! Had I known how he felt I would not have married him, what are vows for if you don't believe the one you made them to exists? It was a great excuse for him to break our vows! My children are believers, his attitude hurt them very much! Don't do it!

You had no idea that the two of you didn't go to church together, ever? You didn't notice the civil ceremony? Many are are socially religious as in going to church as a social or community event while many are non-practicing. Many are questioning but few are atheists. How can you not discuss politics, religion and sexual acrobatics?

Your ex may have been a devout turkey rather than a run of the mill Atheist. Even Atheists who aren't recruiting, recognize there is a gift-giving, chestnut eating holiday at the end of December, just before New Year's orgies and that it is the custom in the non primitive world to over spend, over eat and find a reason to place packages under a dead tree rotting in one's house.

There may or may not be Atheists in foxhoes but there are no jackasses that won't have a smile come to their face with a Yule Tide BJ.