For myself, I need someone with a personality stronger than my own - it helps to keep me in my place without walking all over the guy (even unintentionally).

I find that the guys with strong personalities are able to maintain control (and I use the word somewhat loosely) of the woman in such a way that she has no idea it's happening. Whereas with the weaker personalitied guy, he just comes off as a control-freaked creep.

I am SUCH a fiercely strong person and personality ...

I need someone that can really keep up w/ me on a diverse many levels, and go the distance ...

I'm so complicated to one that doesn't get that ...

The one that gets me ... finds it SO simple ...

Path of least resistance ...

I need quite a dynamo ... then happy me ... happy he ...

HAPPY US!!! ...

Then the entire "subservient ~ dominant" struggle exists outside our comportment, moot ... we build one another, never tear down ...


Each other's rock and anchor and launching pad ...

yes dear

whatever you say dear

smartass


that is different than dumbass by the way


and it's the wrong thread but, have I told you today how much I love you?

I have a VERY strong personality and I find it VERY difficult to be in a relationship

Different things work for different people. Some strong personalities need strength, some need less. We are all different.

If I knew exactly what the formula was and how to recognize it, maybe I wouldn't be unattached.

Maybe the type of personality is not as important as how you mesh with it?

People with strong personalities are that way because their daddies didn't show them enough attention or something.

Lex you should be in luck, people here have multiple personalities

Most of the people I run into have three or four, but they all work like this:

Me: "What kind of personality do you think you have?"

Them: "What kind am I supposed to have?"

Me: "Whatever you like, whatever you're comfortable with, whatever works for you."

Them: "Oh, in that case, I'll just have what the others are having."

Me: "What about your own identity, you individuality?"

Them: "I don't know how to do that, I'll let the others tell me what to do. And who to be."

It's disconcerting, to put it mildly. Particularly when it appears to be an epidemic.

I'd have guessed at least it would be entertaining to say the least, never really being sure which one would come out to play.

But in your scenario, yikes, more than one personality and not one of them can make a decision on their own I'd start playing with matches then.

I agree!

if the personalities are strong/weak, there will be a giver and a taker - and thus misery.

god... if only i could find a girl as messed up and aggressive as i am. most i've known before got therapy and became boring. can't really fault them for wanting to be happy though. humans deserve to make that choice with no judgements.

i think both people should be somewhat capable of performing both roles. just like in sex - give, take, give, take... god i need a girlfriend. a;lsdkfj