well put and i agree totally.
its a pretty screwed up world.

your a sweetheart, i can't imagine anyone not wanting to be around you and your kids i can imagine they are well raised youll find someone soon have faith

well, i have two children, so i guess there is no hope for me at all.
I have been patient for 9 years. whats next?

hi ,i also have five kids one with autism ..my kids range from 19 to almost 2 ,,guys hear that and run for the hills ..i work a full time job and take care of my kids and bills i would just like to meet a nice guy to date ....

I have 2 great girls that are in the teens *sigh* And yeah I have ran into those that want just the one nighters lol even had one tell me that im doable but not dateable because I had kids. But, on the other side of that I have had plenty of dates with some really great guys but just not the one you know?.... Just a matter of maturity level. Then you find the right one and you hit the matter of them feeling comfortable around your kids, if they are gonna be a part of your life then they get a say in your kids as well. It wont work if everything about the kids are left up to one person, it under-minds the others authority and makes them think they are non-essential. Balance is the key to everything... but don't ya ever get tired of juggling the umbrella?... Good luck to ya!

Personally, I would prefer to date another single parent as he would understand issues in my life and why they won't be "number one". But unfortunately I've yet to find one hehe. I've had several run when I mention my kids even when it's in my profile that I have them! Lost one boyfriend because he couldn't handle a 5 year old around. Ah well... I keep hoping and looking like everyone else does.

Nim

I totally know what you mean, I also have 5 kids and to top it off am a widow which does pose different issues than being divorced. I have found it very hard to find someone who will accept me AND my kids and all that comes with it. I too am a very caring person with a lot to give and am still fairly young so lots of life to live. It does get so lonely and hard at times, its frustrating. Good luck to you and I hope you find someone great!

its sad isnt it ladies...i get guys telling me im fit but wouldnt even think about a relationship..im affectionate,have a good sense of humour dont do jealousy or nagging and i love sport and a beer!! and my life is made the whole lot better because the thing that i enjoy most is making other people happy..but no1 seems to want those qualities..x

it will get better. you have tons to offer a man, and i hope the right one comes along for you soon. as a matter of fact, i hope the right person comes along for all of us soon.

im a single mom of 2 sons and i havent gone on a date for a while, i dont even know where my kids would go if i did get offered to go out...lol, so i dont know if only being a mom is what is keeping guys away...???

if you didn't live so far away, this guy would date you.


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Yeah its pretty tough

Just hang in there. I dated a girl that had 6 kids and i loved that part but however she didnt have control over them. One was on drugs and sold them to an under cover cop. And then two of the other ones try to steal beer at a wal-mart. After seeing this i said i cant involved with her. If her kids was ok i would have stayed with her.

Personally, I didn't even look during the time I was raising my kids. Maybe that was stupid but I didn't know how I could juggle the relationships with them and try to build a new relationship with a man. Now they are about grown & I don't regret a second of the "sacrifice" and now it's my turn to take care of myself, date or whatever...

I wouldn't change a thing.

I want those qualities in a woman.

Well, Im a single dad with 2 girls and i get the same treatment, that im told, i dont either have enough time for the other person, or that the girls come first and thats not good enough. Other woman i have tried to date have run the other way because of my 2 beautiful girls and dont want anything to do with me and the family i have started, even though im nice honest caring and fun. So i know how you feel, hang in there something is bound to happen.

You have 5 children and can't find love? It's right in front of you and if you can't see it, you shouldn't be a mom. Your kids should be much more important than any man.

I would just delete & block !
They are a waste of time.And not worth eventhinking about!
Hang in there.