Would you date someone if they had a brother who is a registered sex offender?

Hmmmm... I have one for you....would you date someone whose son is a murderer?

unless it runs in the family, why not?
while it is indicative of being fairly low class, it is hard to blame the guy for his brother's problems

Whoa! an even deeper question.

For me, it would probably depend on what the offense was and if the guy was still in contact with the brother. I always air on the side of caution, it's my job to keep my kids safe.

Add in the ex partner of this person is a murderer....

how's that affect things, I wonnder...

I'd say no. And the reason is, if we had children it could be a problem if I didn't want my children around his brother.

Yes I would cautiously overlook this because the brother is not him correct? In fact it is something that I would hope that he feels he can share with me. Are you really experiencing this situation? It sounds too specific to be hypothetical. I dont want to pry into your personal affairs however.

My quick answer is yes, but proceed with caution and evaluate the situation clearly and what went down and how this will be handled moving forward.

Probably not ,though I might consider if that son has HELP!!

So no dating soldiers for you then????





and before someone leaps all over me.... a soldier is trained to kill... they make the decision to join the service, to train, then to deploy, with the knowledge they are at extreme risk of killing someone.

it's knowingly taking a life.

Not even close to the same thing!

I think thats merely a case of "not enough information being divulged." I think most people assumed "homicidal maniac." Am I right?

NO, it's not.

Soldiers are soldiers, it's a dirty job but somebodys got to do it.

Probably not - IF i knew about it beforehand.

However, I don't know if it'd be enough of a reason for me to break up with him if we were already fairly emotionally involved prior to my finding out about it.

And, thank God they do.

I have children so, no.

Not a woman but will answer anyway, I would date without a problem if the person is sane mentally and seems to be genuine why not. If we start not to date people who have bad people in relation close to them (brother,sister, mother father, cousin, aunt uncles or) we would never date because everybody has a relative somewhere that has done bad things or worse.

You judge the person you meet not who he is related to even if relation affect who we are, you just have to keep that in mind. We must judge the individual not is relatives.

Sex offenders come in all classes.

I think I would need to know the whole story before I made a decision. The label sex offender is used to cover an array of offenses, not just those involving children, so I think that is what would effect my decision.

I agree that we shouldn't judge a person by their family members... But as Connie said "we'd always have to watch out for our children" that could be hard.. But then again if it's an estranged family member, they wouldn't be around anyway....

As far as the mudering question Jess posed, OUCH that would be a hard one... But as an older sister seeing other siblings mess up no matter what they had, were given or how much they were loved... And as a mother of 2 growns sons and knowing that all I taught them they are going to do what they want even if I don't consider it morally right.. I'm 99.9% sure they'd never kill anyone but the reality remains that some people grow up in the absolutely best homes, environments, etc and still turn out bad and some grow up under the worst conditions ever and turn out to be the most upstanding citizens you could meet.. People are people and are going to do what they do regardless of heredity/environment most of the time... Some just like to blame others rather than taking responsibility for their own actions..

That being said.. I'm not sure if I would date someone that had a child that murdered only b/c you never know if they're going to come back around and you and/or your family/children could be murdered.. If they were in prison for life then possibly....