So I recently got separated from the navy...but knee need surgery all of that jazz. When I was gone I would talk to my girlfriend rarely and when we talked we would both cry and she would tell me how she missed me and just wants me to come home. Well I've been home for about a week now. I don't really know how to place it all into words...but it's just not the same. She wasn't the girl I was in love with when I left. I confronted her about it yesterday, it didn't really end in a good way...I was nice about it, I've never been a jerk to her, I've treated her well. Before I left I'll be the first to admit, her and I spent too much time together so of course we're each gonna wanna go hang out with our friends. Anyway onto the real problem, since the confrontation, I guess you could say, she won't hug me back, won't kiss me, she won't tell me she loves me, honestly she's gonna been giving me a little bit of a snobby attitude. She's never been one to hold a grudge or stay mad for longer then a couple hours. I don't really know what to think to be honest. Help?

Think she met someone else?

You rarely talked to her, how would you know if she wasn't the same?

Yeah, she met Jody.

The same thing happened to me. People change, or maybe she thought he changed and is trying to figure out if she likes the new him.

I'm confused. You have a girlfriend and your profile says, "looking for friends...and maybe something more."

I think 1 in every 1000 military wives are totally faithful while their man is in another country for an extended time. If it's just a girlfriend... you can just forget about it. Ain't no way she is waiting.


There's no way to stop them. They have needs that need to be met more than once every 6 months.


Who wants to be with someone who's never there?

Well if you just confronted her about your issues with all of it and say it did not end well then what are you expecting? Especially if the confrontation happened only yesterday.. Give her time to realize everything.. You may be reading way too much into it.. Not any of my business but how long were you all together before leaving?

people change and often time away can fade memories of what once was. she's probably hurt, having waited and now faced with a reality she wasn't prepared for. i suppose you have to decide if it's something you want to mend or...move on from.

First of all I am going to assume you left the military sooner then you wanted ?

( needing knee surgery? you should of had it done before you left the service. Last I heard they can not release you from active duty if you require medical treatment, unless you waive it)

As for the girlfriend well what did you expect you gave her this your not the same or I don't feel the same as when I left? that was what 4 years ago? you have to rebuild what you had not just pick uop and go from where you left off. I know. I did 20 years and each and every time I came back it was different . But the trust was always there. So you need to step it up not her.. JMO